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writes: I left work early cause I didn't feel well. And I caught my husband doing my sister (now my pregnant sister who I'm not talking too). Here's a surprise he's drunk again. We also have a 3 week son who's very needy. I'm so upset I threw my wedding ring at him ( I cant trust him or my sl*tty sister anymore). im staying with a friend and my husband keeps calling me saying how he loves me and wants me back. He even came to my friend's house with flowers and my wedding ring, I slammed the door on his face. How can I get him to leave me alone? And i am going talk to my lawyer about divorce. As for my sister she wants to talk to me (like that's happening).
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 How is it that you were going to work when your baby was only 3 weeks old? And special needs? Or when you stated he was 'very needy' did you just mean because he is a newborn and ALL newborns are very needy? Arent you on maternity leave? Your boby is not yet over the trauma of giving birth! And your statment of your 'now pregnant sister'. Are you saying your sister is pregnant by your husband? When, exactly did this whole scenerio take place if she already knows she is pregnant? Did you take your baby with you when you moved to your friends house? I am glad to hear you are consulting a lawyer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): Sorry you are hurting, but you deserve better. Get a restraining order against both. Start a new life for you and your child. Be strong and think of your baby. This is so unfair, but you will find the courage and the strength.
W.Somerset Maugham said: " The great tradegy of life is not that men perish, but that they cease to love".
But then rmember the words of Charles F. Kettering:
"My interest is in the FUTURE, because I am going to spend the rest of my life there".
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): I am really sorry to hear your story.But I have a question.How did you leave your three week baby to go to work?Was someone taking care of the baby?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 October 2008):
I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. But I think Icelordess is right... this is not something I could ever forgive of either of them.
Contact a lawyer and get him to call the husband saying to stay away or you will get a restraining order. You have to allow him to see the baby though and he is going to have to support the child as it grows up.
Unfortunately you have to accept that this was a horrible betrayal of you, but the relationship with his child has to remain unaffected. One day when it is old enough it can judge him for itself, but till then, you have to get someone in the middle to take baby for visits or supervise him coming round while you go out.
As for your sister, you are just going to have to avoid her. Tell your mum to pass on a message to leave you alone as you are too angry to look at her.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): That must feel terrible. You just gave birth, and now the betrayal of your husband when he is supossed to be sharing with you this new chapter in your marriage and the betrayal of your own flesh and blood. It's a huge load now that you are in a very vulnerable situation both physically and emotionaly due to the birth of your son. Don't let this turmoil affect negatively the first days of the life of what I believe is your first born. Try to enjoy them in spite of all. I don't think you should stay married to this idiot. You should continue with the divorce process and never look back. As for your sister you are not ready to speak to her right now. Let her feel the pain of what she did to you by ignoring her. I'm not saying you should hate her or never forgive her but now you must process all this information and it's a very hard and sad situation for you, and her words and her big belly full of your husbands sperm could only make you feel worse.
I don't think it will be easy for him to leave you alone, his conscience won't let him. Don't you have a second friend who could help you? Perhaps other family members? Can you move even if it is to another state? Desperate situations sometimes require desperate measures and maybe you should make a complete change and start a new life far away form them. It's only a suggestion. You need time to think, to breathe new air... Counseling is very necessary in this situations.
Evangelical Christian Churches specialize in counseling these situations you could receive lots of support and affection if you go to one.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=voix58NVrJY (Please Dearcupid DO NOT EDIT my comment)
Be strong. Blessings.
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