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writes:My question is quite long so here goes. I had a marriage ceremony in the Caribbean in 1988.I did not believe the marriage to be recognized in the UK and so married my current husband in 1993. My current husband wants to divorce me and has proven my first marriage to be valid and is having our 15 year marriage declared void. We have 2 children. I have fought this through the courts but apparently it is legal so there is nothing I can do other than accept this. I have done everything to fight it but can’t. My husband thinks I tricked and hoodwinked him into marriage and believes I knew I was already married when I married him. He won’t speak to me and will not answer any letters. He says he hates me for this and never wants anything more to do with me. He says he will get me sent to gaol if he can and take the children from me. I still love him and want to talk. I need to accept what has happened and move on but I am finding it hard even though the things he has said and done to me are really nasty. Any suggestions?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 July 2008):
I really don't think they would send you to prison. Even if a jury believed that you did it on purpose, the prisons are too full! You'd get community service and conditional discharge at the very most. To be honest though, unless you are standing to gain millions from this man or he has some motive for you to trick him, I don't think the CPS would even press charges. As for him getting custody of the kids, there is no proof you are an unfit mother so it probably won't happen.
I think you just have to ride this out. Concentrate on being a good mum and let him do his thing. He is obviously very very angry with you so you have to let him calm down. Then perhaps he'll read your letters and start listening to reason.
You do your thing, let him do his and try not to worry about it.
Good Luck!! xx
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