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writes: I need some help.I have just split from my gay ex (21) after five months and I miss him dearly.He recently said he would think about us but goes cold whenever I ask if he made up his mind.Anyway, I recently went out on a date but I am finding it incredibly hard to move on. I just find myself crying when we go to the same places I went with my ex, I have cried when I have slept with someone while they are asleep next to me and just cant help thinking that this pain will never end.Can someone give me some tips on how to deal with this. Maybe I should withdraw from seeing anyone for a while.The sadness I feel is terrible. Is this normal?In the
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (25 April 2006):
 Of course this pain is normal, when you lose someone you love, it's the worst feeling in the world. But all I can say is that time is the greatest healer. Stay away from other people for a while, you know they won't make you happy until you're over this. Be careful not to let this harm future relationships too, not all of them will end up in this much pain.
But I do think you need to move on and not wait for this ex to 'make up his mind'. He maybe doesn't realise how much you are hurting and how much keeping you on a string like this is killing you. Move on and if he comes back, he comes back and if he doesn't, you'll be a stronger person anyway.
Hope this has helped, I just hope you're ok. I know it will get easier with time.
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