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*hirpychap
writes:Hello, me and my girlfriend just broke up, for reasons ill go into nowShe signed upto a dating site and i kind of found out, but she said she was just looking for friends, sempt abit odd but nevertheless she carried on chatting to a guy.This is where things went all pear shaped, The convosation was just a normal one between 2 people but i kinda flipped and started acting like an arse, She asked me at 4pm if we was still going away and if we are still together. Me acting like a complete arse said "I Dont Know"So after that she never contacted me but then arranged to meet this guy the next day.So we spoke few hours later and she told me she was meeting a guy tomorrow because we are over, As to my surprise i was devestated.She has met this guy twice now and she tells me when she is meeting him, but it hurts, we still talk and text and when i suggest trying to make things work she just gets angry and says no.Is there any chance we can rekindle what we had?On thursday we would have been together 12 months :(
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reader, chirpychap +, writes (11 May 2009):
chirpychap is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAn update:
Well we were speaking fine last night and i thought we was getting on and maybe try again, But this morning come around and i phoned her, she told me she is changing her number and good bye,
The hurt is subsiding thankfully, I think its time to get on with my life.
Cheers for all your kind words.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (9 May 2009):
 Hiya chirpychap
I know exactly how you are feeling, as my ex boyfriend did almost exactly the same thing to me. I found out he was on a dating site, and that he had been both chatting up and meeting women off the internet, whilst being with me. He originally said it was just to meet "friends", but when I pushed him to take the profile down he refused. I ended it with him, because he wanted to cool our relationship while he "worked out" which woman he actually wanted to date!
I know it is very hard (understatement) because you love her and have deep feelings, but the fact she even signed up to a dating site, and met/chatted to other guys suggests that her feelings may not be as deep as yours,(either that or she has no conscience at all!) and that whatever was to happen, it would be you that gets hurt. You had every right to be upset about her actions, as she has been a totally selfish cow.
It took me a while to realise that I was much better off without my ex! Anyone who could do that was just thinking about themselves and I pity the next woman who falls under his spell. I deserved so much better and so do you.
I hope things work out :)
If you want to talk, email me.
Tiger
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reader, chirpychap +, writes (8 May 2009):
chirpychap is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea thanks for the adviced just wish it wouldnt hurt so much ya know
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (8 May 2009):
 She shouldn't have signed up to a dating site so no wonder you were angry! You had a right to act like you did, its perfectly normal to react that way! If my boyfriend did that I would end it with him! She's being a bitch at the minute, meeting a guy and rubbing your nose in it!! Leave her to it, she'll realise what a good guy she has soon enough! And if she doesn't come to her senses then consider it a lucky escape! X
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