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writes:ours was a long distance relationship. she is in a high school while i am 22.we were so addicted that we would not even think of a day without talking to each other online. last time when i went to her place, i proposed to her and even she agreed to it. we spent a very beautiful time there.i was kinda always liked every little thing about her and her remembering her always makes me smile. i love her madly!!but then gradually it got faded after i came back.i think i expected more from her and had shown my eagerness towards her. this further pushed her away from me and she acted very formally online unlike she did when i was there(and this has always happened, she has a kinda attitude in her but she has always been friendly and generous to everyone in general).she never stood on my expectations and kept playing mind games with me and i kept hanging onto her for a year partially out of habit. i kept waiting and waiting and waiting for her online everyday and tried my best to give her time and did every thing that could generate that spark back but this long distance restricted me and i was often turned off by her. moreover, i didnt want to sound a despo anymore.so i have completely left her so far. she sent me messeges twice or thrice in these 8 months as in where am i and why am i not messaging her? but i said i didnt have time though i badly miss her presence til date. we hardly talked on phone. i called her up a couple of times but she never called me up and that further pissed me off n even i have stopped calling her up and have been avoiding her.i have not seen her and havent even talked to her during this time. things got faded and time went by. i really miss her and want her back. how to regenerate that lost spark ? i am determined to get her back. is it worth it ? please help !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): A relationship takes two people to work if she does'nt meet you half way what more can you do. My best advise would be to go see her and if thoes feelings come flooding back then theres probably a chance it'l work but you need to both put in the effort! If you still feel like theres something missing maybe its just time to move on. When you find the person your ment to be with that spark will never leave some people believe it was there then left, it either wasn't there or they just cant see it.All the best xx
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