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writes:Please explain what is going on here:This guy and I had been friends for a while. One day he said he found me attractive and I said that I had hots for him too. We ended up having sex for a few months, hanging out, texting, calling, etc.One day he drunk texted me and said he was crazy about me. I didn't expect that at all but said I was happy to hear that and that I had certain feelings for him too. After that, I didn't hear from him for a while. Last week he called me and said he wants to be friends. I agreed and we have been talking since. He texts me all the time, shares personal stories, and flirts too.What is going on here? Is he still interested in me sexually? Does he just want to be friends?What do I make out of it?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 January 2016):
 For me (and all I can do it guess) I don't see him having serious feelings for you.
HE declared that he was crazy about you and you told him good, cause you liked him back and then boom... he stop talking to you.
In my humble opinion, IF he was really interested he would have been GLAD to know you felt the same and not... ignored you for a while.
So why did he contact you? Either he has found someone else and wants you to be the "spare".
Or he doesn't WANT anything serious and thus suggesting friendship. And well, those CAN change into FWB etc..
Why NOT ask him what's really up?
But all in all, DO you want another friend? Or are you looking for more? If it's the latter... he isn't it.
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reader, Confused35 +, writes (18 January 2016):
Confused35 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat is correct, we have not had sex since and I am as puzzled as one could be as what kind of games he's playing.
If he just want to be friends it's going to be tough. I don't know if I can be friends with someone I slept with
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2016): So you guys didn't have sex after he told you he is crazy about you?
I am not sure that he wants to keep you just for sex.
If that was the case you would be having sex from now and then.
I am not sure what that's mean after you already had sex for a few months, suddenly, let's be friends. Did he mean JUST friends?
I a m at the age that I saw all variations and this uncertainty is not for me.
Ifs I had a situation like that I would ask him. I would say: what did you mean by saying, let's be friends? Do you mean that you don't want to be intimate anymore?
And see what he says.
I don't want men to play games, not saying something clearly or make me wonder.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (18 January 2016):
 Listen to Honeypie.....
Good luck...
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reader, Confused35 +, writes (18 January 2016):
Confused35 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAre you saying he's talking me up to keep me interested in case he feels like having sex in the future?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2016): Yeah he probably does like you. He's embarrassed by that drunk text he sent you. Which is probably how he really feels but still he is embarrassed. Wasn't the best timing, maybe he didn't get the response he wanted. So he is now trying to play it cool with you to not seem too eager. So he is trying to mask his feelings and his confession by minimizing his feelings and now posing as a "friend."
But yeah he likes you. Chances are he really is crazy about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2016): I think that when he texted you and said he was crazy about you he expected a more warm answer than "I also have a certain feelings for you" Which probably made him withdraw.I think you are mature enough to discuss the affair with him openly and see if he is only after sex or there is more to it.
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reader, Confused35 +, writes (18 January 2016):
Confused35 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAre you saying he's talking me up to keep me interested in case he feels like having sex in the future?
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reader, Confused35 +, writes (18 January 2016):
Confused35 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo you're saying we are not friends? What are we then?
I had a feeling he is just stringing me along for sex, however, he is not suggesting anything. Right now we are just talking
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 January 2016):
I think the most likely scenario is that he is hoping for some NSA sex (I won't call it FWB as you really aren't friends). The kind where he can call you up when he wants some and you will drop your panties after a few sweet words.
I think you need to figure out what YOU want and then VERBALIZE it, otherwise he might just string you along for sex.
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