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writes:If a FWB arrangement ends for whatever the reason (ie couldn't handle other people being involved) and the person got hateful and then apologized does the FWB ever have a chance in restarting? What makes the other person come back to the one that broke it off? Reply to this Question
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reader, peppertree +, writes (25 February 2008):
 boundaries are to be respected. If your lover needs time apart, then give that which they need. the reasons arent negotiable, nor require explanation. it is hard to be separated from those we care far, whether or not it has fwb status. Those that have come into our lives, and catalized growth and healing, will always be remembered, and honored in our steps forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): That's "Rhythm" not..."Rhytym" Sorry, dear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Agreed totally with Rhytym. And just to ask. Was it you that broke it off? And now you want to resume the relationship again? Oops, sounds like some 'feelings and emotions' may have gotten involved. So you ask, what makes the other person come back? Why should they come back? There likely was no emotions or feelings involved. Some people (usually the males) are very good at separating sex and love. Some people aren't (usually the female) and it's those people that should never, ever agree to 'FWB' relationships.
So why do it again? I guess, to me, it's pointless. Obviously one person has engaged their heart and emotions and the other hasn't. And that simply shouldn't happen in this type of relationship. Isn't the whole reason for a relationship of this sort is just to boink each other, no strings and absolutely no emotional involvement. Just f**k, get dressed and leave...no questions asked. So to anyone who's emotions get involved, I would say that by continuing in a FWB relationship and feeling the way they do for the other person, it will only serve to drag one down and one will get very hurt, when they get dumped for their f**k buddie's 'person of his/her dreams'.
Listen hun, I believe all humans deserve to be close to someone, to know that they are loved and accepted for who they are. It's wonderful to know that one matters deeply to someone else, and that they are valued by another person.. Committment, love and Intimacy strengthens how one values themself. It reassures us that we matter, and enables us to face the world with confidence. It's only human to want that dear, and many of us find it. So I have to wonder 'why' people in these relationships don't go out and find that for themselves...instead of using each other's bodies for sexual gratification. That is just so meaningless, don't you think?
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Thanks Irish!!!! So you mean in other words F**k buddies. Right??? Lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): FWB means "Friends With Benefits"
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (24 February 2008):
What does FWB mean ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): This question has no answer, it depends on the dimwittedness of both partners to accept a FWB arrangement in the first place....if you enjoy being used then sure of course it will start again...but as you have found out it is an unhealthy arrangement...someone always wants more, someone always ends up hurt, resentful and angry and not feeling so good about oneself....if you have been there done that, why would you want to go back, don't you think you deserve more or are you that desperate for attention and sex?
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