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writes:So I was in the library at my college the other day and as I was looking for a place to study I saw this very unique and exotic looking girl. She had the most beautiful dark hair and the most intense features.I saw her before on campus and her persona was so mysterious and unique. To me she stood out amongst the hundreds of girls I saw on a daily basis. I walked up to her and asked for a minute of her time, she looked a bit confused, so I started telling her how I would like to get to know her. I explained that I don't know why but something about her made me want to get to know her better. I got her to smile a couple of times and my god she was gorgeous. I suggested we get coffee so we can get to know each other better. She said that she lives an hour away and commutes home after classes. She also said that she was going on break soon as well. We go on spring break in about two weeks. I don't know though but it kind of seems like she is not too enthusiastic about coffee (i don't expect her to be). So how can I win her over, after all she gave me her number. She dropped off the other day from a text convo which is why I don't like texting, it was getting late so she may have fallen asleep. But the fact i cant get her out with me gives me no choice but to text for now. It just seems two weeks is too long to wait to have coffee. What should I do because I don't want to push her into making time, but at the same time a 20 minute conversation over coffee is not a whole lot of time to sacrifice. I’m assuming that if she does have coffee with me I would be able to make her smile and show her that i genuinely like her and want to get to know her. How do I win her over without being pushy. I want her to make the decision but would like to gently encourage her without pushing her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for you perspective and I can totally see where she would be coming from as a girl. Sometimes I think things through as a guy and forget to put myself in a girls shoes. Thanks again!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 March 2016):
 Well it is nice to see you have someone else in the radar and good luck with the date. Sometimes people don't want to come across rude so they don't say they are not interested, its not that she was being mean, she probably was just taken off guard and wasn't sure what to do. At least you tried.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 March 2016):
 She was probably unsure of what to do when you first talked to her. She could have told you to bug off, but she didn't - either because she didn't want to be rude, or because she was a little curious about you.
However, she might also feel that it's some kind of game for you. That the only reason you asked her was because of her looks. Being "exotic" doesn't always equate to being interesting or nice.
You tried to hit on a girl and didn't get the result you wanted. It happens.
I'd just presume she isn't really interested and focus on the new girl you have already lined up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah she totally blew me off yesterday. When a girl does that I chalk it up to no interest. I'm moving on and theirs is 25% chance I will respond if she texts back even though I highly doubt she will. I'm going to lunch with a girl from work tomorrow so I'm excited about that.
But it would have saved me a week of texting if the other girl told me she was not interested when I asked for her number. I get girls try to be nice but guys can handle a little rejection, I would have actually thanked her for being honest. Instead of texting and then disappearing like that, it just doesn't make sense to me. Anyways moving on.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 March 2016):
Okay well if she has not wrote back to you, then I would leave it at that for now. Maybe she is unsure yet what she wants to do. If she is not responding then you should give her time and see if she writes back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAunt Honesty, thanks for the idea. We don't have a set lunch break. Everyone has their own schedule and you eat in between classes or when ever you have time.
I did text her morning before going to class and asked what her schedule is like and if she has breaks in between her classes before she commutes home. But she never responded up to know.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (8 March 2016):
Do you both not get a lunch break at college? Maybe grab lunch together, so it is casual and so you can both just have time to relax and chat. She is probably not to over enthusiastic at the moment, because to her you are the perfect stranger and vice versa but at least you have made the effort well done. Plus she gave you her number so that is a huge plus. Next time you are texting tell her you would like to treat her to lunch a day and see how it goes.
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