A
female
age
36-40,
*exi
writes:HiMy bf and i have been through alot of trouble to be together and my parents are the ones giving us the trouble. I love him with all of my heart and would never cheat on him or do anything that would jeopardise our relationship. His birthday was in January and we spent the day together. In the night he told me he was going home but he didnt. I tried to get hold of him that night but couldnt get through eventually he called me at 2:30 am, asking what happened as there had been plenty of missed call on his phone. That same night i asked him where he was and he told me that he was at home and he never answer his phone as he had left it in the lounge and never heard it ring but i was suspcious. I never asked him about that night again. This weekend my mum told me that he was lying to me and i must find out where he was that night. When i questioned him he denied that he was anywhere then he told me that he went out by himself to a casino and gambled some money then he came home. He said that he never tell me as he knew that i wouldnt send him and i would be angry that he lost the money. I think that he must have done something wrong because if it was so clean and innocent then he shouldnt have hid it from me. Should i forgive him for lying and am i over reacting? There have been times in the past where he has done his own thing and i had to find out from other people. Please advise me what to do. I am thinking of breaking up with him b.c i dont want to be lied to in the future again.
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reader, sexi +, writes (5 February 2008):
sexi is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi
Thanks for your response. I want to giv him a chance but he has broken all the trust that i have for him. It is going to take me very long to trust him again if i ever will. I really love him but i wont accept him hurting me time and again.
Regards,Thanks for your response i appreciate it
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reader, 2old4this  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 Sounds like he is not ready for an open honest relationship. He may not be doing anything bad, but the point is he is being to secretive about it. You need to talk with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him all you want is to be the person he tells things to. Tell him that if he is embarrassed about his problems that you are the one person he can confide in. So, either this behavior changes right now or you have to go seperate ways. Explain this to him and give him a chance to change if he wants it. If he doesnt then you have to walk away.
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