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writes:I am really confused!! i broke up with my bf of 3 years about 4 months ago and went a little bit crazy and slept with a few people 2 of which are my ex bf's friends!! Now me and my ex hav recently started gettin closer again and i am still in love with him! i would do anything to get back with him but could never tell him that i have been with his friends or any 1 else for that matter!!Now i think that i may be pregnant! i havnt took a test yet but i am worried what should i do!oh and i caught chlamydia off 1 of the lads i slept with and give it to his friends they wer really nice about it and comforted me!! could this have damaged the baby if i am pregnant?i know for a fact that they would never tell him
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): Thanks for the advice this is a genuine question!
i sorted the chlamydia out a few weeks ago! so thats not a problem now just worried what my ex would think of me just because of some drunken bad choices! i dont want him to think i am a slag and dont want him to hate me or his friends i know for a fact that his friends wont say anything.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (16 March 2008):
 I'm not certain this is a genuine question. If you're not, doesn't matter, you've had a bit of fun with me. If you are genuine, then you are in a very difficult situation.
Priority number ONE - get a pregnancy test done. Knowing the outcome will help you think more clearly and deal with the other issues. Don't put it off, do it as soon as poss.
No:2 is sort the chlamydia out. Would be better to do these both at same time with your GP. If you do these separately, make sure you tell them you are pregnant, if you are.
No: 3 if you are pregnant, the question as to who the father is arises, as well as what you choose to decide about the future of the pregancy. The two are interlinked depending on your viewpoint. Your doctor will help you with this as well.
These are your top three priorities above all else.
No: 4 - if you are pregnant is to tell your parents, brother, sister, aunt etc. Someone who you can trust and share your thoughts and plans with.
Other advice I can give you: do not rely on these boys keeping secrets. It might come out unintentionally, maybe somebody talking when drunk, but it will almost certainly come out at some point. You will need to tell your boyfriend what happened if you are planning a long term relationship with him (and maybe a baby). Better that he know now, and you can both make choices now, than dealing with this issue further down the road.
Take care, Richard
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reader, ..BETTYBEE.. +, writes (16 March 2008):
At the end of the day 'You was split with your ex' when you slept with his mates, although its a wrong thing to do he cant hate you really because you wasnt together at the time.
If you know that he will NEVER find out then dont tell him, but if you are pregnant then you must think real seriously of how things will work out.
Chlamydia is kinda serious so you should really be checked over by a doctor to see what damage youve got.
I know your feeling stressed but do what your heart tells you to do.
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