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writes: Hi, I'm due to go to uni in 4 weeks. However this is the same uni which my ex goes to. Although he doesn't have any problem with me going there I think his current girlfriend will. My ex and I do usually get on but his girlfriend seems jealous of me (or so my ex has said). I know that she will find out because we usually hang around with the same circle of friends, but I don't want it to cause trouble between them. Both my ex and I still have feelings for each other, but I have promised myself I will not get involved again. How can I go without causing trouble for them and myself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2006): without doubt you sould hang with them and do not be mean
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2005): Education is everything! Focus on that-it is singularly the most important thing you can do for yourself. Don't worry about the ex and his gf. Stick to your promise, not get involved with their lives. Allow them to build on their relationship while you explore all the possibilites of what university will do for you. You ex bf has to reassure his new gf that you aren't a threat to their relationship and she will likely calm down quite a bit. He may be talking to her a lot about you-if he is, he has to stop. No woman likes to be compared to the ex gf, especially if she knows you and him have some feelings for each other. Go on with your life, meet new people and try to stay clear of these two. Make some new friends and don't worry about how she'll react..if she's upset she will have to deal with it, in her own time. Take care and best of luck.
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reader, SouthernGuy +, writes (21 August 2005):
Lulu, education is the thing that you should concentrate on. If their relationship has any strength, you being in the same uni shouldn't matter. Keep your promises - especially the ones to yourself. It's not up to you to make them feel secure about each other. You should look out or YOU!
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (21 August 2005):
 Just be yourself. Concentrate on you and don't think about her much. ARe you going there for education or for her or him. Stick to your plan...make new friends....so what if you hang out with mutual friends...maturity is part of this. If she is insecure about you ..that is her problem not yours and don't make it yours. It is up to your ex to assure her that you are not in their way.
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