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writes:Im a 16 year old girl from the UK and im in love with a Turkish man, we have been together for only a few months now but im so in love with him. I want to move to Turkey and live with him and get married to him but am I legally aloud to move abroad without my parents permision? Im not sure what to do, I really want to move in with him but can my parents stop me?Please help!Thankss. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): hey i think u should really consider this a few times...Marriage? are u for real ?I know where this will end up...So many Turkish guys use foreign girls to get a visa to go abroad and i know this guy is using you because you are 16 and he is 28..there is only one thing he wants , and trust me there is no way he will ever marry you. He is likely to be muslim and if you are not muslim dont even dream about marriage...also his family , turkish men stick by their families always and usually marry a muslim turkish girl I dont wana disappoint you in this relationship but question it please , turkish men do not see women the way english men see them , the way of life is completely different there.I know this coz I have a turkish bf and he has told me all the stories about turkish men using girls for sex or visas and i know if i told him this he would straight away tell you to get out of your relationship with the 28 year old.think twice!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 September 2009):
Making him wait 2 years is far better an idea.
Apart from anything else it will prove his love and also allow you to get a decent education in England.
You can also learn Turkish / Arabic before you move out there.
You have to always have a plan B when making a huge decision like this. You don't want to move out there and it be perfect for 3 or 4 years and then if it all goes wrong you move back here with only a couple of gcses to your name, no work experience, no entitlement to benefits (since you won't have paid national insurance or tax) and be completely stuffed.
Plan it and look much deeper into what it means to live abroad. No NHS, no income, you have to think about all this stuff.
Also, when you do go, please please please consider very carefully if you want to have kids young or live your life a bit first. Waiting is far more fun as you can travel and really enjoy living abroad rather than just being a housewife and mother and be bored as hell with no friends.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for replying so quickly.
I just want to make it clear that my parents do know the Turkish man and they love him very much but the only thing is that they might not want me to move out so soon.
At the age of 16 you can move out of your home and you can travel abroad but can you move out to live abroad?
I think I will wait until next year or maybe even until im 18 which will prove to me if the Turkish man really wants me or not.
I should also mention that he is 28. 12 years older than me. Which will probably be part of why my parents wont want me to move to Turkey.
Any more help and advice would be great, Thankss xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (17 September 2009):
No you can't move out and get married on your own at 16.
And the likely hood is that this man is not the guy you think he is.
Only a real idiot would think about marriage after a few months... and I bet most of that has been online and over the phone???
He's promised you the world and if you weren't so young you wouldn't have fallen for it.
If he loved you he would come to england to get to know your parents and see you. He would be willing to wait till you are older.
Set him a test to see if he's willing to put any effort in or does he just want to get you to buy a ticket, come out and see him, have sex with him, and then dump you?
Prove to your parents he's not just a pervert after a school girl and then you won't have this problem.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): Yes your parents can stop you and the law will not allow you to. Find a man that is around your age from around your area. You will be happier in the long run...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): please, please listen to me. even if you are allowed legally to move to another country. please involve your parents in any arrangement of this sort because you will definitly need their help if anything goes wrong and things mostly do go wrong in situations like this.
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