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writes:Hello all. So i was hoping someone could answer a question i had that really has no answer. i met this girl about five months ago. her boyfriend ditched her to go 2000 miles away for 6 months and after about two months she got a job at the same restaurant as me. after working together for almost two months she asked me out on a date as friends and by the end she was telling me how much she liked me and how perfect i was. I myself found her extremely attractive in more than just looks and i just assumed she was way out of my range, but now were dating and its been about 2 months. a couple days ago it was her birthday and i told her i loved her. I had felt that i loved her for a long time but i was scared it would freak her out but turns out she felt the same way. Anyway, enough story time, its question time. In this situation where iv known this girl for 5 months, dated her for 2, was i an idiot to say i love you to her? In my heart it feels like shes my everything, i miss her all the time and just hearing her voice brings about a rush of happiness. But could it be that i am still in the stage of infatuation and its blinding me from being able to realize this? You have to know someone to love them, can i truly know someone in 5 months? I know this question has no absolute answer, even a close answer but just your opinions; Can i love her after 5 months?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Yes, you can love someone after just 5 months. Moreover, people have fallen instantly in love upon meeting one another. Though rare, it does happen. It seems to me that your question is less about how you feel (can I love her after 5 months) and more about 'should I have waited to let her know how I feel' ... insecurity. Perhaps you did not get the response you desired from her when you told her that you loved her. Well, true love is given without any expectation of getting something in return. If you truly love someone, it is always best to let that person know. You cannot change your feelings for her, and you cannot change her feelings for you. Accept that you love her, let her know (which you did), and ask her if she feels the same way about you. Once you have all the information, you can decide whether this person is worth any more investment of your time and energy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): Of course you can!Ive only been with my boyfriend 3 weeks, and hes told me he loves me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): Of course u can love someone after 5 months, i meet my fiance and fell in love with him straight away, 3 years on we are happier than we have ever been and getting married in june next year.my feelings of missing him when he woznt with me, hearing his voice would make me weak at the knees it still does, so u go for it and be happy dont let anything or anyone stand in your way.
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reader, danniele0161  +, writes (13 November 2008):
yes you can
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