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writes:hello to all hope you can helpi just broke up from a 2 year relationship i'm 28 and my ex is 54 where do i start she was in a married relationship with someone she no longer loved and we ran away together we fell in love staight away the first year we were together was all going good but the past 6 months we could'ant seam to get anything right i don't know wether it was with me bein unemployed, we have never been apart or it's the age factor the draw me to her in the first place we thought that a break would have been better but a wanted to let her go so we could have space apart as somthing never really done apart all i fell now is regret and hurt i know it all my fault can't stop thinking whats been done i know if i could find a way to recindle our love i would be doin it now how long do i wait till i contact i need help please anyone i'm a virgin to break up first serious relationship
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reader, single.now.1980 +, writes (26 June 2009):
single.now.1980 is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondone somthing stupid this week i was clearing out the flat we once shared and we sat down and relaxed with one another over couple bottle's of wine we relaxed a bit more started to get late and i'd forgot what i was really there to do and she leaded me to the bedroom did'ant stop the night she said could but did'ant i said i was sorry i don't know if she did it as she does#ant know what she want's or still feels there is a chance i have't spoken to hear in two day's i don't know what to do now is it one last night i just don't know please help have i just made things worse if so to the women out there how would and when would you take a guy back
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reader, single.now.1980 +, writes (21 June 2009):
single.now.1980 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know i will need to give her time to get her head around all thats gone on as i dont know wot my next move must be this time apart is killing me every hour of every day hurt i try to do things to keep my mind foucsed just volunteered at the local chartiy shop but she always there how long is it before i make contact do i stay friends this week i signed the flat over to her as no where else to go im just kipping at mums till find my own place but i am seeing her when i have to collect my things and by time have to go i cant seam to but like she say's not ours anymore but she said im always welcome to pop in for a brew i know she got a week off work this week is it worth talkin to her as she will have more time this week to think about things hope can help i know your all here to help and thank you for all your advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): she was married and she ran away with u? this is messy and she has baggage that she needs to deal with, her husband.
maybe she still felt s/thing for her husband, maybe she felt guilty for leaving him for someone else, maybe you didnt have the connection anymore and u both lost touch with what initailly made you fall in love with each other, maybe she fell out of love with u, it happens, sometimes u just dont love the person u once did anymore.
Maybe she did think that u were too young for her, you being unemployed unfortunately wouldnt have helped things, she might have been annoyed that u didnt or wouldnt look for a job, being straight out here.
you cant make her love you, all u can do is apologise if u have done s/thing wrong, tell her u still love her and hope she will give it another chance, it might be too late, maybe u both have had yr time and it wont come again, it happens, it hurts but it happens, sometimes we have to move on. The rest is up to her. It is a big age difference, maybe it was too much for her. If u have only recently broken up give her a few weeks or so then contact her. If she loves u she will try again, and if she deos u have to try to make it work with her, also look for a job,its ard out ther but u need to try, volunteer, do something
good luck
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