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36-40,
anonymous
writes:how important do you think it is to be sexually compatible? i am a very sexual person and my girlfriend seems to occupy the space at the other end of the spectrummy attempts to address this divide almost always leads to fights. iv told her that i believe she is looking for a best-friend and not a lover, but that i need both - she has reluctantly agreed with this. can differences in libido be addressed? is it possible to overcome it or is it something that will affect our relationship indefinitely?
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (21 December 2015):
There is really no way to upgrade your girl's low libido unless it is due to a physical problem (such as painful sex) or she is looking for a different type of sex (such as BDSM). You don't say anything that would suggest those are factors.Not only are you frustrated but I am sure she is frustrated as well, wishing that she could satisfy you but only at the cost of doing something that is uncomfortable for her.Frustrations will grow and this is the type of problem that only worsens as time goes on. The path to your sexual satisfaction must involve a different partner.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 December 2015):
Most men believe women do not have as much of a sex drive as they do...very wrong good sir. In fact, women have as much or more of a sexy drive than men do. A man would would find it hard press to keep up with a woman when it comes to sex.
You have the thinking of a young man who cares about his needs and how much sex he can have. Rather than her needs and the QUALITY sex she is looking for.
Women are not hump machines you just stick your tool in...tell her do this, do that, roll this way, and you are done...Thanks honey...zzzzzzz.
Let's switch things around...How would you feel if you found out that your girlfriend thinks you SUCK in bed and that is why she does not want to have sex with you??? Wouldn't take that to lightly now would you??? If you found that out, you would most likely try to figure out how you can please her so she thinks better of you.....she needs the SAME THING!!!!!
Want to have great sex...lots of sex??? Find out what she needs to be satisfied. Your tool IS NOT THE ANSWER...Trust me.
A woman's vagina is unlocked by how her heart feels...not how you feel inside her. Make the heart very happy, and she will be very happy to open her legs. You think "ROMANCE" movies and books are made just because???
A man's Penis is connected to his heart. Make the penis happy, man's heart is happy. But a women's heart is connected to her Vagina...Make her heart happy, and you get...
Trying to make her vagina happy does nothing for her. She is not a man. She works on emotions, not sensations.
When it comes to thinking of her needs and not yours...You are on the other side of that spectrum.
You are not the only one in this relationship, and your needs are not the only ones that matters.
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