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female
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anonymous
writes:I know nobody would understand the relationship i have.I`m having an affair with a married man.I`ve tried to stop my feelings towards him,but he`s persistent in courting me.He did the best and the sweetest things to win my heart.I know that married men does like this.But i`d seen him as totally different from the rest.maybe,i was just blinded of my love for him.But i want everybody to know,that i`m really different from the rest of the "other woman".I don`t want to be called as the "home wrecker" because i`m doing everything just to save his family.It`s just that i love him so much with all my heart and soul.I`m willing to die for him too.I`ve sacrifice a lot to keep our relationship.I admit,i`m sometimes hurt of this situation,that i end up crying every night without him knowing it.But i love him so much that i can`t take to lose him.
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reader, freebird  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Hey,
have u read Jhumpa lahiri? she has written this wonderful story about an other woman.its in her collection, called 'interpreter of maladies'. the story is called 'sexy'. Read that. it might cure you.and please get out of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Don't worry Mrs, there are ton's of people in your sad situation. Your not alone, we see women like you on here every day. There are tons of people who know exactly how it feels to have a relationship with a married man. Maybe you should take a look at this link, it just might help.... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/in-love-w-a-married-man-how-do-i-cope-w-break-up.html
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Tell me, just WHAT are you doing to save his family?
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 I dont understand what you are asking.. do you want us to applaud you for 'not being a homewrecker' and for 'doing everything to save his family'???? Sorry Sweetie, you are a home wrecker and you are destroying his family. You are the other woman in this relationship and since he has cheated with you he will cheat on you with someone else... I would suggest that you give him an ultimatum and I am sure that he will choose his wife and family before he will choose you. Sorry if I am being harsh but this is the truth of the matter. He is just using you. I sincerely hope that you never get to experience the pain a wife feels when she finds out her husband has been unfaithful....
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (30 June 2008):
 You've made a statement but haven't really stated a problem or a question here. Do you feel bad about what you are doing? Do you feel that other people are criticizing you? Do you feel that other people think you are being taken advantage of?
Frankly, other people DO think you're being taken advantage of, because it's virtually certain you are. I don't doubt for a minute that you have VERY deep feelings for your guy, nor do I doubt that he has feelings for you. But if you think that anything long term is going to come out of this relationship you are probably setting yourself up for a big fall. This guy's got it all. He's got a home and family, plus a really hot girlfriend on the side. He's not going to want to change that. As long as the wife is willing to be blind to what's going on (do you REALLY think she doesn't know about you?) he'll sail right along with two women, happy as a clam.
If the wife decides to put her foot down, though, you are going to lose. If he ever has to decide between the two of you, be ready for a big hurt. Oh, and there's also the chance that he might decide to switch girlfriends, too. A guy who cheats once will think nothing of cheating twice, and there's nothing binding that ties him to you except his "love", which he pledged once (when he got married) and then went back on.
But for now you have a man in your life who you love, and you can't stand to lose. That's a wonderful feeling in a lot of ways. Just don't let that love blind you to the realities of your situation. As you live out this life of love, live it knowing that it could well be temporary and could end in heartache.
And best of luck to you. I hope it works out well.
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