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*unatic6205
writes:When my girlfriend tells people about how jealous i am she leaves out a good bit of details that actually lead to the jealousy or well made it worse. There are 3 main things that made it worse and drove me to the point where i questioned her about stuff like how she thinks a guy she got pared up with on a project looked and what they talked about and stuff like that. she automatically assumes i am accusing her of it and flips out. ok the first thing is she complimented one of my guy friends right in front of me saying "you have some gorgeous eyes" the second thing is that she complimented some dude at a resturant when he walked away about his hair. The third thing is when her sisters were talking about seeing an old friend from school in a store my girlfriend says his name and then goes mmmmmm. What i want to know is, does anyone else think she had a good part in making me as jealous and insecure as i am?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Well, first off, I can sort of understand where you're coming from. It's not cool to compliment guys in that way in front of your boyfriend-especially if you know it hurts or bothers him. I really don't think she means to, but if she truly cares for you, she will realize that this bothers you and stop. It's natural to be attracted to others, don't let that worry you. It's just not okay to act on that attraction and cheat-your girlfriend is not doing that so give her a break. Dont question her so much or you just might drive her away. Be tender with her, gently tell her how you feel and ask her to please stop because its hurting you. Ask her if she'd appreciate you telling other girls that they're sexy or have nice lips or eyes-right in front of her! I used to do that to my boyfriend, and when he returned to favor, I felt like crap and understood how he had been feeling. So, best of luck!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 You are insecure and jealous probably because of your age.
Asking her about a guy she is working with just makes things worse.. She's working on a project, she's not on a date.. his looks, what they talk about is totally unimportant and really none of your business.. She is at work, she is not at play.
She comments that some men have attractive features.. well they do, she's a honest person, she notices it and she mentions it. It is not a marriage proposal, she's not going to run away with them.. It's like looking at flowers, blue flowers are pretty, red flowers are pretty, flowers make the world beautiful..
Dosen't mean because I look at flowers that I'm gonna cut them all down and take them home.
At your age you are insecure, you can't relax and just accept that she's with you because she likes you best. A guy may have nice eyes, one nice hair, that's because they do. We can like other people and find them pretty, to say we don't would be a lie. However we choose our partners because they are more than pretty, they are people we love, people who touch our hearts and are always in our mind.
Relax, she's just looking at the garden of the world, but you are the only gardener she chooses to be hers.
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