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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. He is an audio engineer and has to record people ALL the time, even at 3 or 4 in the morning because "that works for those he records" or so he says. To get around that all I ask is for 2 days, just 2 days of just me and him. No recording, no studio, no calling people on the phones or text messages. He always agrees to those days, but when the day comes he springs something up on me like "oh, I have a meeting with so and so" or "I need to record so and so" or "I need to lay my verse down". He doesn't tell me these things when we agree to spend the day together just him and I. When I bring it up, he gets upset at me claiming that he told me he had stuff to do, or "I could have done it yesterday but I decided to come eat dinner with you instead." And generally make me feel guilty for what he says is complaining but what I say is just telling him how I feel. And that's another thing, when I explain he's doing something to hurt me, it's always complaining in his mind. It makes me never want to tell him how I feel because I don't want to seem like I'm complaining. He always says that he gets tired of it.What should I do. All I ask for is just 2 days out of the week, he can have 5 days to do whatever without me saying anything. He can get sooo many other people to record his clients when he's with me but he won't. Especially on those days. It's very frustrating. What should I do?
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reader, tofulove  +, writes (29 March 2010):
You probably don't want to hear this but to cut a long answer short: all guys are like this. Most if not all, but I doubt it. I have been putting up witht his for 3 years now. Either get a boyfriend who will pay attention to you or put up with it. I chose to put up with it but you should just hang around your own friends more so you don't seem dependant on your bf. then he will realize he could lose you anytime.
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