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writes:This guy that I liked forever lead me on for about 2 years and just shut me down about an hour ago, I have forgiven him for every lie he said to me, i have forgiven him from doing all this other stuff, but he just shut me down, and even though i feel like my heart got ripped out of my chest and got ripped to pieces, I said its fine, he also has cancer and i promised I will always be here for him( he's in remission),I have even left my boyfriend (now ex) that I dated for six months for him. what should I do? And should I tell him my real feelings for him? I NEED ADVICE Reply to this Question
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reader, Oneloveoneheart +, writes (11 February 2011):
Oneloveoneheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys so much that really helped me :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): this happened to me last year. He broke up with me and apologized for hurting me. I told him not to worry and i would he fine. I knew it would take time but i would eventually move on. We decided to be friends but eventually stopped talking altogether. It hurt more than anything but i kept the pain to myself because i didnt want him to know how he had hurt me. i never imagined it being a year later and im still not completely over him. Ive accepted the fact that its over between us and i know i just need more time. After all he didnt treat me like a boyfriend should and i was cheated on and lied to. ive forgiven him completely and he knows it. He appreciates the fact that i was mature enough not to hold a grudge even though he knows he did wrong. To be honest im the type of person who puts ohers before myself so i truely want him to be happy. We are now able to be friends and im finally happy. So basically i would just say give it time and eventually things will get better. Good luck
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reader, Shelley Harris  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Hi,
There is a lot of emotion tied up in this it's not easy to give advice when you don't know the circumstances. I would give him some space go out and enjoy life, be vibrant let him see you like that and he may well come back. The thing I worry about is the lies and the other stuff, if he is treating you badly, then go and enjoy life but don't take him back. You are young and will find the right person, there is more fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): hii...this sounds a lot like me when i was your age (except i never broke up with another guy, and the guy i liked didn't have cancer). i know how suckyy it feels to have been put through all of that crap, and i know how much it hurts to know that he doesn't want to be with you. but hunny, let me tell you something. i'm sure you've probably already heard it somewhere before, but i'm going to say it anyway, because it's true. YOU ARE SOO YOUNG!!! you're only 13-15 years old. you have PLENTY of time for love!!! and don't be afraid to open your heart again. just because this one guy hurt you doesn't mean that the next guy will.back when i was in this situation, i swore up and down that this guy was my first love (even though he never loved me back). and i reached a point where i said that i would never love anybody else but him. but do you know what happened??? in the year that followed, i found myself in two different relationships with other guys. the first one was just a fling, but the second one actually turned out to be my real, true first love. and to think...i almost missed out on that because i was soo hung up on that one loser.my advice to you is to just do your best to get over him. i know it can be really, really hard to do that (especially if you're faced with seeing him on a daily basis), but really, it's one of the best things you can do. above everything else, keep your heart open!!! because love will find its way in right when you least expect it. ")good luck, and God bless,~sarsar~
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