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writes:Dear cupid,My boyfriend of 7 years underwent a surgery for a problem he's been facing since 2 years now!he gets these eruptions and warts all over his face and body and the doctors said its a result of an infection with a virus,no matter how many times he underwent surgery medications,these keep coming back,this has pushed him away from me,he doesn't let me touch him,or hug him..he wants to stay indoors all the time,I haven't gone out for a movie or dinner with him In 2 years..all we do is sit at home..when we went to the doctor,they suggested the surgery without a guarentee that this would not recur,and that it would lead to permanent scarring of the face,so skin grafting needs to be done..all I want to ask is 'is love enough'?I want to live,I feel caged,I love him but I feel tied down..his family and friends noone is here with him as everyone grew apart in the past 3 years and he only has me..what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2013): Hey there.Your problem reminded me of this wonderful novel where there's this man who withdraws into himself after being affected by polio. Your boyfriend's case sounds similar, to me. It is very easy for a person to seek refuge inside himself when he feels altered. He must be taking time to wrap his head around this alteration, and it IS very hard to go about naturally with your relationship when he is undergoing such a mental process. Give him and yourself time. Ask yourself if this relationship is worth sticking around for a while. If the answer is yes, then REACH OUT to him. Tell him that no change in his physical attribites can change your love for him. Your love is the only thing that can give him the strength to face the world with a new vision. Feeling caged? Break free. Engage him. Radiate your enthusiasm and let it touch him. I've found out that in relationships, no strategy works, but the absolute truth and love. Reach out.I wish you all the very best! *hugs*
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