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writes: Dear Cupid, I have this problem where I've been together with my boyfriend for two years now, and been living with him for nearly as long, but the problem is that he's said many a time that he never wants to get married or have children! I know that i'm only 22 but all of my friends are engaged and it just makes me feel that at least they know that there other halfs want to go further and show how much they love them. I love him so very much and want to spend the rest of my life with him, I just don't know what I'm feeling about the subject and i'm asking for your advice. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, M.O.M., writes (14 January 2005): Dear Please Help!!!!!!! When someone tells you something you need to listen to them. If your boyfriend is telling you he doesn't want to get married or have children then he probably doesn't - at least not now or within the timeframe you want him to. So many women get trapped in these situations and then are unhappy when their boyfriend tells them they don't want marriage. Making it worse we stick around thinking we are going to change their minds as we continuously grow unhappier. You need to empower yourself. If marriage and children is what you want then you need to date men that want what you want. There is nothing wrong with you wanting marriage and a family as long it's what you truly want and not because your friends are doing it. Putting yourself in a situation like that would probably also have a negative outcome. If he really loves you then he'll commit. But, for now I say move along. Get to know yourself better and work on improving your own self-esteem and self-worth. With a strong sense of self-esteem and self-worth, you may end up telling him get lost when he comes begging you to take him back. It is your right to ask for want you need and want out of a relationship. Remember time cures all wounds should you end up leaving him. Good luck.
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