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writes: My long distance boyfriend of a year recently broke up with me stating I was being too possessive. Now he wants us to talk everyday but not have the "title". He said he still cares about me but he needs to focus on work more and figure out if we are right for one another. He told me the other day that i'm not a miracle worker that is going to just change overnight. Everyone is telling me he wants his "cake and to eat it too". Is he just using this as an excuse because he wants to mess around with other girls ( which he claims he's not)and Is it hopeless to even think we'll ever be back together?
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reader, Toria +, writes (29 September 2006):
 Just try to be strong and hang in to giving him the space and not contacting him and showing him you are weak, you need him to see he wants and misses you and that you aren't possesive and able to back away when needed to.
Good luck, keep me posted :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your help!! I agree. I will give him and the situation space- although it will be quite difficult. Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2006): I would leave him alone right now. He doesn't want a title which means commitment. You don't want to be used especially as you still have feelings for him. Yes in my book he is looking for his cake and wanting to eat it too. If you were to start seeing him again, should he happen to meet another girl he could use the excuse 'well you're not my girlfriend are you?' this happenend to me and I tell you that it makes you feel like shit. My ex accused me of being possessive, but he was in fact sleeping around. Accused me of being jealous, paranoid etc. You don't want to be in that place where you are doubting yourself. I'm not saying your man is sleeping around, he may even be telling the truth. I would say be wary of this situation, tell him he's either committed to you or there's no relationship at all.Give him chance to figure things out for himself, if he has got feelings for you then he would do anything to make you happy.
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reader, Toria +, writes (27 September 2006):
I would let him go and give him some space to figure out if you are right for one another as all the time he is getting to be free and still get what he wants from you he won't do anything about the situation and not be any closer to knowing whether you are right for each other and if you are what he still wants.
Being away from you should answer all his questions regarding you and your relationship together.
If from this break he decides he doesn't want to be with you anymore than it is better you know now so you can start moving on.
Good luck :o)
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