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writes: I have caught my boyfriend masturbating, which has upset me a great deal. We have a good relationship and our sex life is ok, so i dont understand why he feels the need to do this. It has upset me to a point that i can barely bring myself to leave him at home alone, and when i know that he will be alone, i worry all the time, wondering if he is at it again.Why do you think he needs to do this?? I have confronted him about it, but he denys he does it, clams up and blushes and gets defensive about it, which only arouses my suspicions further.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2006): Listen hun, it's not all about you. And it's not about the masturbating either. I think that you have some self-esteem issues that manifest themselves as a desire to control your boyfriend's sexual behaviour.
He won't stop wanking - it's a natural act. Until you come to terms with your own insecurity and esteem issues, you will only cause more damage to your relationship. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2006): i caught my boyfriend masturbating and i too feel very upset by this even though he has tried to explain to me that all men do it i dont see why he has the need to do it as we have a healthy sex life
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A reader, Wise Worm, writes (6 January 2005): Well, masturbation is a touchy subject, guys do it, girls do it... It's an act that familiarises yourself with your body. It is a great tension reliever and really no harm... If it becomes an obsession, there is a problem, it can easily become an addiction, like drugs or alchohol.Do you masturbate? I suggest you start if you don't, get to know your own body, you and your partner will benefit. Allow him to get comfortable with masturbating infront of you and join in. Let him phone you next time he feels the need to satisfy himself. Just like females, guys also have hormones that fluctuate on a daily basis. Between the age of 13 and 25 maybe even 30, male hormones go bonkers.
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A reader, Senstless, writes (6 January 2005): Masterbation, is very normal in any guys life....you shouldnt be upset if he does. There could be number of good reasons why he does, to keep himself undercontrol while around so hes not always making a move....or just to relieve some stress. How would you feel if you knew he was masterbating to you? There is nothing wrong with masterbation most of the time, depending on you religious views of course, unless it becomes compulsive. I would recommend reading more material on it. An execellent book in general is Guide to Getting It On, I own it and am glad I read it. Every guy I know masterbates, and is pretty open about it to other guys....
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