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writes: i have been with my boyfriend for near enough a month now, but we seem to be going through a rough patch in such an early stage of the realationship, i seem to be really insecure that we are going to split up and he can not reasure me that he is not because he has promised me in the past and has broke it. he always tells me he loves me but he just doesn't seem to be bothered about splitting up with me wich i cannot understand, please can u help me because iam really confused about this, thanks lucy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2006): Hi, I know exactly what you mean. I've been with my boyfrind for over a year now and I he still appears not 2 be bothered if we were to split up/ if he hurts my feelings. But what I have learnt over time is that some boys are willing to pour their hearts out when it comes to emotions wereas other find it hard beacause they've been hurt in the past and don't want to show a vunerability, they don't want you to think that they care because in their minds' it puts you in a position of potentially dustructive power. Basically, they think that if they don't show they care...even if they do...then it will hurt less if anything is to happen and they come out not looking like the fool who begged pleaded and cried when he split up from his gf.
A reader, louise, writes (23 January 2005): not very many boys show their feelings towards girls, escpecally when their with mates. what you could do is ask him to look in your eyes and ask him how he feels about you, i no its hard were young boys are concerned their more interested in their mates than in their girlfriends it dosn't mean that they don't care i know how you feel i'v got a simular problem but just try it ask him staright if he dosn't tell him you want a break, you know what they say abbsence makes the heart grow fonder. gud luck
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