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writes:I caught my boyfriend lying to me a couple of weeks ago. He lied about where he was so he could stall me from coming over so he could smoke pot with his lady friend. We sorted it out, and on his own accord he promised he would stop seeing her and swore to never lie to me. He insists to me and my friends that he hasn't seen her since but I've still had my suspicions. These suspicions were confirmed yesterday when I found out that she had been over the day before. Anyway I asked him if he had seen her since he said he would stop hanging out with her and said he had seen her a week ago and that was it. He swore to me that was the last time he saw her but I confronted him and told him I knew she was over the day before and walked out. What should I do in this situation? I dont want to break up with him but now I dont trust him at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Well he has really damaged your trust her by lying to you about this girl, have you met this girl? Do you think they could be more than friends? If you think that they are just friends then maybe you shouldnt try and stop him from seeing her because he will probably just keep lying to you if he values her friendship, why dont you suggest the three of you meet up and see how she reacts around him and you then you will be able to see if there is any jelousy there.
You need to tell him that your trust has been badly broken here and he needs to work hard to repair it, i dont think its a good idea to tell him he cant see her again just tell him you would rather he be honest with you when he is going to see her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): You can't have love without trust
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Break up with guy. He lies to you. You don't want to be in a relationship where you can't trust the other person. If he lied to you once he will lie to you again and he proved my point by doing just that. Find someone that will treat you like a queen and will not ever lie to you. That is a true relationship.
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