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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is really depressed, we have been going out for 2 month and hes saying he feels on a scale of 1 - 10 ( 10 feeling really good ) that hes about a 2 . He has been seeing the doctor and a mental health worker but i dont feel hes getting full support as he should be. i know hes been stuck in a vicious circle before meeting me im putting a kink in it so he feels better that theres good out there. yesterday he messaged me saying i can do so much better than him and he wont contact me anymore . i have messaged him ( he has read what i sent ) but hes not replied . i know he wasnt in the right frame of mind when he said this to me so for now im taking it with a pinch of salt. i dont want to pester him but i want to know hes ok and to see him later , should i leave him to have ' time out ' or should i ring him ?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 December 2017):
 You need to be sure that you are strong enough to be in a relationship with someone with depression. It is tough going on you and him, and its tough going on a relationship. Glad he is seeking help, and well I am glad that you are sticking with him and working through it together, just remember to keep yourself happy and put yourself first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2017): im the op , weve had a really good talk about things and he said he didnt mean what he said about dumping me, we are working things out and learning how to deal with 'bad days ' he is talking to professionals and opening up to me a lot more
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reader, Denizen +, writes (4 December 2017):
 Leave it to the professionals. There is no quick fix. Keep in touch by all means, but don't pester him. Part of his recovery will be about him wanting to go out and find things he enjoys. You can't force him.
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (2 December 2017):
Have you thought about what you are getting into here? The early part of a relationship should be almost perfect. Is he likely to pull out of this depression? As you've described it, I wouldn't want a romantic relationship with such a person. I can understand that you are concerned for his well being. But you need to look out for yourself and place you first.
It may sound selfish, but I would take his suggestion and let this one go before you find yourself in a never ending spiral of dealing with his episodes.
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