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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 weeks and he's already talking... sexually. At first, he was really nice and sweet, but then he got my cell phone number and texts me things about sex. He asks me about personal things and it makes me really uncomfortable. He keeps saying he wants to finger me and he wants me to finger myself and I don't like it... at all. That's just not me, I feel like I'm too young and I definatly don't want to get pregnant. I'm not sure what to do! He will start spreading rumors if I break- up with him, and I can't deal with that. Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): Hold him at an arm's length. He sounds like he is being ruled by his sex drive so he does not have it in him to take it at your pace.
Why are you worried he'll spread rumours about you? I think you should tell a few of your close friends what's going on and then have a conversation with him setting limits. If he listens to you and agrees to take it at your pace, great, otherwise be prepared to break it off. Chances are even if he agrees to back off a bit, he'd keep trying to find ways to convince you... or talk you into something that you have decided not to do.
You say you are uncomfortable... have you let him know that? In future also, if a guy does something in your presence or to you that you don't approve of, you need to put your foot down, sternly if needed.
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reader, yer lee +, writes (4 February 2010):
 well..if i was in your position we'er over alreadyy..but heyy, just wait alittle&&see wat happns aite;;if not then b a brave girl&&juss get over him.there r plentyy out there:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): All I can say honey he is not for you. you sound like a really sweet girl and you know whats important to you. You gonna have a lot of guys that will come and go and beleive me he is the one that needs to go. Tell him that you are not interested and he do not stop there I think you should go to some one that you can trust that want tale all your business, but you should tell some one what it going on so that they can handle it in a proper way
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