A
female
age
36-40,
*pringluv2
writes:My boyfriend is 52 and I am 20. The sex between us is good for as long as it lasts. Foreplay like 30 minutes ans sex like 2minutes. We been together for a year and made a son together. The other day I was putting desensitizing gel on his penis and he got upset cuz it was slippery. I got mad and turned over in bed. He said I was selfish and that I wasn't leaving until he got up in me. We left and we didn't have sex. The ride to my house was quiet because I was upset. After calling me selfish I said to him " your selfish because you com suring sex and fall asleep and im left unsatisfied" was that wrong to say? Its like im frusterated cuz I want him to make me orgasm so bad. I've mentioned pill for stamina but he ignores me[ I guess its his pride] anyway should I just go out and buy then from gnc or something or drag him into the store? Its been a year we haven't had good sex and im desperatly ready. How can I bribe him into taking them?
View related questions:
foreplay, orgasm Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, molson5070 +, writes (24 May 2011):
 Stamina pills wont do anything. The only way to last longer in bed is to learn to control your ejaculatory reflex. There are many programs online to teach that. Trust me pills creams and other crack are nothing more than scams to get your money. Everyone wants a quick fix and marketers know that. A quick way to last longer is to change your positions. The girl on top is good because it takes stress off his muscles and allows him to better control himself. Another thing is stop intercourse when you feel he is about to come. Careful not to kill the mood though. Try kissing him passionately or anything else until you feel his arousal is down. This should help a little, but honestly lasting longer in bed is hard enough for men who really try. So unless he puts the effort in you probably see much of an improvement.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): Honey, be glad that you at least get 30 min. of foreplay...seriously. I'm a 30 yr. old female and my boyfriend is 51 yrs. old. He thinks that giving him oral is all the foreplay that I need...it's not, but it doesn't matter what I say. He could care less about satisfying me in bed, he only cares about himself getting off. Like your man, he can only last for a couple minutes as well, so needless to say, he has never given me an orgasm...not even close and he refuses to try anything that might help him last longer like cream, cock ring, etc.. I hardly ever have sex with him, I usually just blow him, but when we do actually have sex, it's over before I know it and I'm left lying wide-awake, totally unsatisfied, wondering why I even bothered...yes, it's that bad. Anyway, if you decide to stay in a relationship that is sexually unsatisfying, I strongly recommend buying yourself some toys as andrike mentioned. If you're lucky enough, he'll use them on you, otherwise just go solo and satisfy yourself. If you want to involve your bf, just be careful of how you do it, the male ego is very fragile, especially when it comes to their penis (best not to get anything bigger than them). I've tried involving my bf in toy play, but he either gets jealous or is just too lazy to bother. Of course, nothing compares to the real thing, but if your bf's thing isn't doing it's job, there are plenty of toys out there that can.~Take Care
...............................
A
female
reader, andrike  +, writes (5 April 2009):
try doing new things and diffrent positions aparently men can keep it hard when they get older if u do anual well so i have been told or buy a toy and ask ur partner to satisfy u with it if he cant.taking the pill is defnitly the wrong road to follow older mens pride dont allow them to requer help of that nature intreduse toys in a sexual way and u both mite end up alot happier
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): i want to know about the pic as well. did he take it down or does it not bother you anymore. First you need to look at the age thing. although i can not say much about age because my b/f is 38 years older than me. i think that everyone's body is different especially men. my b/f has no problems with that but if he did i would sit down and talk about it calmly. it really hurts mens feelings when they are put down about sex. maybe he is having a difficult time know that he can't satisfy you. my suggestion is if you are concerned talk to him, me and my b/f talk about it all the time especially if there is a problem. and most of the time the problem is with me and my satisfaction. men do understand especially the older ones. and it really can't be all that bad you have a child together. so at some point and time he lasted a little longer that usual. if you force him to take pills he will pull away from you. it you are that dissatisfied with your sex life. then move on to bigger and better things in life. don't hurt his feelings. it looks like he got upset and you flaired up and got mad. that was the time to talk about it not get mad. sex is about being together and sharing something together not being one sided.
...............................
A
female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 March 2009):
 Do you put the picture of the deceased wife face down on the TV when you have sex?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): he has to be willing or he will just not take them.. I think u should talk to him without getting angry or blaming him and just say that it would really make u happy and u are willing to get the pills for him.. Your not being selfish i mean that must be frustrating, he is getting what he wants and not satisfying you.
...............................
|
