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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I'm very confused about my fiancé's behavior lately. He works in a liquor company where they travel every now and then, he is on the phone all day and working on computer as well (home office). It seems that lately all he cares is the stock market, work and the new house we moved in. I asked him if he loves me he said yes but don't really show it. I feel ignored. He texts a ton and when I ask him who is he texting he always says from work. When I check his cell all texts are deleted so the emails. Why does he delete everything? He said because he doesn't want to have alot of texts on the cell neither accumulation of emails. Strange! Where he works there are alot of girls and I asked him if he is in touch with someone there besides work he said no but I saw texts from him to a girl from work in his other cell where he keeps history about texts. Nothing serious but it wasn't about work. He basically said "I'm glad about it. I will stop by after I get all settled" it doesn't say to where or nothing else. This girl emailed him before saying: "I'm bummed I won't be there the time you will. I'm out of town. Perhaps I can arrange a cab for old times sake" he responded: "I can't believe u won't be there but u will see much more about me down the road" what does that suppose to mean? should I worry about that? I asked him about email and he first, got mad saying the email was nothing and about the cab she was joking. I don't believe it. I think she was flirting with him and he was flirting back. He thinks she is cute because I asked him that. He gets mad very easily and I try not to ask him my concerns about the amount of texts he send. I know not all text are from work but how can I know if he keeps deleting everything? Is that a sign that he is up to something? Should I tell him how I feel? When I told him once we ended up fighting. Thank you very much. -confused :/
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 It's possible he deletes the texts so they don't start a fight, which they have before. Of if he has one of those phones, that only hold so much in the inbox and require you to delete some before you can read the most recent. I have one of these crappy phones. He has another phone for keeping a history of texts? I find that very odd. Now, this email you came across does sound fishy. I would second guess him as well. What has he done to make you snoop in the first place? If you bring up the subject again, then it will just start a fight and you will be back to square one with no answers..plus you don't even trust him, so I doubt you would believe what he told you. The only way to know for sure is to acquire his phone somehow and read the texts. Or if the cell phone account is in your name you can go online and look at the numbers he has been texting and call each one to find out who they are. But who's got the time for that? Plus you shouldn't have to do that. Either give him a break because you have no evidence he's cheating (it could very well be nothing) or break up with him because you can't continue a relationship without trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Why are you watching his texts and e-mails? can't you trust him?
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