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*elesteBlue
writes:Long story short, my LDR boyfriend recently confessed to have cheated on me multiple times with a FWB the past days and I'm really devastated, I've cried too much since he told me this. Now, he confessed on his own and without pressure coming from me. I decided to break up with him after he told me and ever since he has been contacting me and asking for a second chance.Yesterday he was drunk and contacted me yet again saying how sorry he was for hurting me and that he doesn't want to let me go. Also told me the reason why he cheated and said it's because he needed to satisfy his own needs.. which unfortunately I cannot fulfill due to the long distance between us but something in my heart tells me that if he loved me as he says, he would rather still wait up for me rather than hooking up with any slutty girl that comes his way. I find it really selfish of him to have done so cause even I have my own needs but cheating on him is out of the question, which is why I wouldn't want to give him a second chance tho he told me so rather than hiding or lying about it is what makes me consider giving him a second chance.Does it seem like he really deserves a second chance?
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reader, CelesteBlue +, writes (7 July 2009):
CelesteBlue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your answers, I think you both are right and I've resolved not giving him a chance since he clearly showed he didn't love me at all when he did this.
Many many thanks for taking the time for helping me clear my mind !
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): celeste i think you just answered your own question about his infidelity and your decision to be faithful to him inspite of the distance.he wanted his sexual needs satisfied and he did not give a damn about you. tells you something about him, doesn't it? remember this, he has a taste of frequent sex, he will not stop just because he has now confessed.
a mistake happens once, hey maybe twice but frequently, problems here - red flag and trust issues. if you give him another chance well, you will be crying all over again in the future. he is used to the FWB aspect without emotional connections. you will not change this.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 There's a song called "Wait for Me," and I believe in it. It's so true: that if you love someone, you will do what's right and not what's easy. It doesn't mean you're inferior... your boyfriend was a weak person. I think you should dump him. He sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too... maybe he's still attracted to you, but he wants to be in a relationship with you and have sex whether you're there to give it to him, or not. The mark of maturity is understanding that in love, you have to make sacrifices sometimes, and it sounds like he didn't want to do that. He sounds immature, and untrustworthy.
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