A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:This lad began coming into my shop just over a month ago. He always bought the same drink and left with the usual pleasantries. He came in daily.One day he came in and asked me about a product we stocked and we had a discussion about it. The following day he came back in and we were back to pleasantries.A few days later I thought I would ask him how he was getting on with the product and he just seemed to light up. He started to tell me about it and started describing his home. He was very animated and leaned so close over my desk I had to lean back. We had general chit chat and then he said: I really have to get to work, but I'll see you tomorrow or something.Pleasant chap, I thought.Since then, he hasn't come in! He walks past every mmorning and waves. This has been over a week now. This is where my question comes in.I've studied body language extensively. When he was in the shop, he was very open. Eye contact, open body language, nodding, facing towards me, leaning close, lots of smiling etc.Now, this waving has become what I can only describe as comical. He started out just waving normally and smiling. Then, this entire week I have been met with an expressionless stare and a sort of frozen arm in the air? Yesterday I wasn't looking and he practically jumped up and down outside the window. I looked uup from my paper and smiled but I got this expressionless face again?! Today I actually had a chuckle to myself because the limited expression on his face seemed to say: You're exasperating me!I am at a loss to what is going on. Noone is forcing him to wave at me and he always does it first anyway. Half the time I am reading a paper or knitting so my hands are full and I can't wave back. (he can see me clearly and so must be aware). I think he is being friendly rather than flirting as all I saw him do was check out my chest in the shop once, but that's just a man thing, right?I am totally perplexed on what he is thinking. If I wave at someone I am being polite and I'm smiling - it's a greeting. This just feels/looks really strange to me and as I say, I'm finding it comical when I clearly shouldn't be! Any ideas would help salve my curious mind! Many thanos for reading.
View related questions:
flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, R1 +, writes (2 February 2013):
 So he asked you out for a drink but you said no. Maybe there was something there, I've never asked a shop assistant out after they showed me a product!
The expressionless face thing could just be a man thing. He wouldn't wave if he didnt want to.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): hiya - it was me who wrote the question!
Because my silly phone wouldn't let me scroll up, I forgot to add the most vital bit?!
Put in after "that's just men". The only other thing he did was ask if he could buy me a drink to say thanks (boring as to why...to do with product) and I thought he meant from my shop? So I said; no thanks, I judt had a cuppa. He said I meant after work....
My stunning reply was: Oh.
BUT! Thats not to say it wasn't just a friendly offer.
I was more wondering about the expressionless face and the arm in the air to be honest, but thanks for the reply!
...............................
A
female
reader, Carry On Dick +, writes (1 February 2013):
 I would say definately friendly, it`s possible that you may be reading too much into this guy.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): I think he is being friendly. You don't have much to go on, just a bit of small talk, waves and smiles. I suggest if he was interested in a flirty way that he would be in the shop more and asking where you go on nights out. So try not to put too much thought into this. You are analysing every small gesture and trying to find clues. He may be interested but it is hard to say. So just be friendly and don't over think things.
...............................
|
