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writes:I have a request and a question, what does body language has to do with getting a gal? Secondly, this is not a question actually, its a request to all readers. my prayer to all readers is, whether u r all da religious type or not, pls pray for me. Pls just say once from heart that I get her love. I'm so depressed, weak, low esteemed, under confident now. Shes da one for me. Shes my first love for years till now. So all of u, pls do me a favour just ask once to god (if u believe in him) to bless me with her love.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 God cannot make her love you, even if we all asked. It is up to her. The best advice I can give you is have some time away from her for yourself and with your friends. I don't know if you've already established a friendship or not with her but that is the best way to start. So give it some time away, let her know that you need time and tell her that your going away and that you would really like to be friends with her when you come back.
Secondly, body language is not somthing to focus on at such a young age, forget about it, because it can make you become over-analtical all the time. So just be yourself you don't need to research this stuff yet its not that important so rid your mind if thinking about it and just relax and be yourself.
when your away from her (this includes if you see her ll the time - just dont give her so much attention) just build your self up again find your own passions, what you want to do with your life, think about your career, your job, do you have somthing you love to do? Well focus on those things. it will help you build love within yourself for you. go to the gym make yourself look hot and sexy and they will flock to you! she will see this, but it takes time!!!
when you eventually feel ready to come back, ask her to hang out and just be her friend for now. let her come to you because being a friend to somone is better than nothing at all.
I've been in a similar position once, and now she is my good friend, infact I never want to distroy that with her now. I still love her very much, but I know we can never be and have accepted that - she probably dosent even know I still do. but its the best feeling to know she is there in my life.
You can do that too. I don't know what she's like but im sure if you havent already scared her or damaged anything then she'll be fine and she will respect you if you give it time.
Once you've made good friends with her, if she wants she will come to you. it takes time so you'll need to be patient.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (6 January 2009):
you sound like you just need a good confidence boost. then your body language will be so different, you will walk around upright and feel really good about yourself. but before you can get a girl to want you,love you...you need to learn to love yourself in a very positive manner.
it you are depressed i would advise talking to a professional, this may help with your confidence and sort out any issues that you have. then maybe if it is right, you may get the girl. if not her another girl shall come along. the special someone is out there. i may not believe in God, but i do believe that there is something more out there and i believe that whoever is the right person for you will eventually find you. so good luck
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