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writes:I'm a 49 year old male, I enjoy being nude a lot at home. I walk around the house naked when no one else is around. I'm married for 15 years. My question in this " I enjoy seeing my nude body and am getting an urge to try being bi-sexual. Is it normal for people (men) to want to try that? Need some advice Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 November 2012):
 Well where I stand is a bit more unusual than most.
RULE ONE (and pretty much the only rule) you must discuss with the spouse BEFORE any events.
I came from a marriage (my now ex husband) where we had an open marriage. We both "played" with women and I also played with men...but we were almost always together.. but sadly the openness of the marriage was the death of it. I'm now married to a man that I will not share.
I think that you may be falling into mindset that says that if it's same sex contact it's not cheating. I know that I could easily use that excuse so that I could have some girl on girl time, which I miss terribly. But my husband and I have opted to be monogamous and for me that means no girls either even though he's open to the idea.
I think that MOST women will NOT be open to such a proposition. You will need to make the judgement call about your wife's reactions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): "I enjoy seeing my nude body and am getting an urge to try being bi-sexual. Is it normal for people (men) to want to try that? Need some advice"Just throwing this out as an idea: If you're interested in male nudity and bi-curious, why not try to find a jerk-off buddy or two? You can get off with other guys but no touching each other and no exchange of bodily fluids. Most guys will deny it, but almost all guys masturbate, most guys discreetly check each other out, and most guys are curious about how other guys get themselves off.Big difference between being socially naked with other guys (locker room, skinny dipping) and being intimately nude with other guys. Unfortunate most males are so hung up on our own naked bodies and afraid to look at other guys' naked bodies; talking about our bodies and dicks and looking at each others' isn't a "gay" thing, it's a "guy" thing.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 November 2012):
 Personally, no.
If my husband decided that this was something he wanted to try men, the marriage would be over. Because not only could it put me in danger from STD's as well, but I would see it as a slap in the face. And maybe because I'm not interested in sharing my spouse sexually AT ALL.
It's a slippery slope - because the wife will without a doubt feel like SHE isn't good enough, sexy enough, whatever enough to please her husband. And really, how can a women compete with a dick?
What IF you tried it and you absolutely loved it? What then? Would your wife go from being your wife and partner to being your convenient room mate, maid and housekeeper?
Not all fantasies are meant to be lived out.
MAYBE you can try some roleplay and strap-on with your wife if she is game.
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reader, nudist1 +, writes (24 November 2012):
nudist1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the 3 inputs, the two ladies have the right advice. But not sure how many women ( wives ) would be receptive to their husbands having sexual contact with other men, even if its just fantasy. What do you other women think of allowing their husbands do this ? thanks for your responses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2012): I have no idea if it's "normal", but I'm your age and feel the same way. I would be curious to try some things with a guy, and also get a bit of a thrill from being naked. So FWIW you're not alone.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 November 2012):
I think being curious in normal at any age. Though perhaps more common in the younger and the middle aged. Why - well the young because the surges in hormones and the middle aged because they think they might have missed out of stuff in their youth.
I don't think you can "try" to be bi-sexual. You either are or you aren't. IF you think you are, then like SVC it would be something you would need to clear with your wife. You "trying" out the male/male fantasy may not be OK at all in your marriage. So you will have to decide if your libido and fantasies are more important then your marriage to your wife.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 November 2012):
It's normal for folks to be bi-curious.
Since you are married this is something you must clear with your wife...
that's step one.
then we can talk more.
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