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writes:My boyfriend and I are really close to having sex! We've been together for about five months and have a really strong relationship, both of us are virgins and we want to share our first sexual experience together. We both accept that the first couple of times the sex wont be great are there ways I can make it better for him?Also Im really worried about it hurting! How can I cope with this pain? What happens if he doesnt fit inside me? I've never worn tampons etc and im worried he wont fit! I'm really sure I want him to be my first experience because we both care loads about one another and he really supports me and looks after me, but still I cant help being really nervous! Please help!!
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reader, picababe +, writes (21 October 2006):
 The best way to enjoy your first time is to try and relax. You will both be nervous and stuff will be running through your head constantly (is he liking this? am I doing alright?) Just keep in mind that, sure, a couple embarassing moments might happen but you care about each other and are experiencing something new together.
You can make sex better for both of you if you use lubrication. It will feel better for both of you if you are lubricated. My first time only hurt because I was nervous and not lubricated at all.
About the pain, it is only a quick, sometimes sharp pain at the beginning. It will hurt the first couple times you have sex but it gets better after a while and you can start to enjoy it. As for him not fitting, you shouldn't worry too much. It shouldn't be a problem.
Just make sure you try and relax first before you have sex by doing other things that will lead up to sex. Like kissing and such. Also remember to tell him to go slow and if it hurts too much you can tell him to stop and try another time. If he cares about you as much as you say he does he will respect that you need to take your time getting used to sex. It is something that only you can decide you want to share and only when you are both ready.
Remember to use protection and if you plan on having sex regularly after a while you should think about birth control. You can never be too safe. Good Luck! :o)
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