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writes: my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and have recently become a long distance relationship because of college. We are now 3 hours apart and see each other about every two weeks. Lately we have been sad at each other a lot, frustrated, and seem to fight over the littlest things. I must admit, its usually because of me. The stress has made me question our relationship. However, whenever we are back together on weekends we are back to normal. No ridiculous fights or anything. I don't understand why. Any ideas or input?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (8 November 2010):
 You're fighting because of the distance, that happens in every LDR. Actually seeing each other twice a month is pretty good, most LDR couples can't do that. Pick and choose your battles, if yourself fighting over little things don't bother. Just brush them off and apologize for that idiotic argument. Remember you have to overcome these arguments because you can't make up properly it's got to be done over the phone.
Now, not everyone can handle a LDR that's why a lot of people say they don't work. Because they're not for everyone. I say give it a try, don't sweat the small stuff, and keep up on the communication daily. It will work out when you both put the effort into it, and keep your mind focused on the next time you get to see and touch him.
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reader, sneha_1492  +, writes (8 November 2010):
That's because of the frustration you both have because pf not seeing each other sweety. It happens in all long distance relationships. I've been there too. But mine was worse cos my guy was in another country altogether. Just calm yourself down and think of the fact that it's hard for him too. And being a guy I'm sure he'd really want his gf beside him. So you both just gotta relax. Youb oth love each other and that's enough. Distance makes the heart grow fonder honey. If this is the guy you wanna spend the rest of your life with, just ignore the hard times.
You don't fight when you meet cos it doesn't even cross your mind. These are just petty issues. Dont worry about it.
Just make sure you both are spending enough time with each other even if you're apart by calling, messaging, seeing each other on skype, etc.
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