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writes: why is it that adults think being a kid is so easy? i mean they lecture you about how good their childhood was but they can never accept the fact that we are not perfect... not like they were..i think they should spend a day being a teenager with growing pains and hurts see if they think being is that easy now! Reply to this Question
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Hi, It is never right to insult your parents, if not for them you would not be here. They love you but sometimes parenting can be hard too. I'm sure you have heard this before, but they feed and clothe you, and look out for your well being. But you could ask your mom and dad for a sit down conference, and let them know how you feel about the things they say to you, let them know that you know they have to chastise you, but could they take a more positive attitude, and not be so very negative. Be as respectful as need be, but thank them in advance for trying to change their tone. Do not hit them eith every little thing, but whatever the most important one is to you, let them know and hopefully they will understand how you feel. It may be good to write them a letter, if you don't think you can talk to them face to face. My nephew would write my sister long letters to express what he felt. I would not make the letter too long, as people have short attention spands, and you want them to listen to what you have to say. Stay in touch and let us know how it goes. You will be fine in the long run, but the daily slog can be a bit tough sometimes. Find an interesting hobby to take you mind off of things, excel at something you like besides school work, how about photography, pictures of nature are always nice. If you are good, you could enter some photo contests. Try it. Take care.
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reader, confused... +, writes (13 August 2008):
confused... is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah but that's not the only thing i know my father isn't perfect but is it right to insult him like they themsleves were perfect and another thing, nothing is ever good enough for them, when you do a little mistake they tell you your stupid or compares you with everyone else
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reader, Artistry +, writes (12 August 2008):
Hi there, No, it is not something that an adult should say to a child. But we can not control what comes out of someone elses's mouth, but we can control whether we internalize it or not. You do not have to believe something just becasue someone says it. Reject things that you know are only meant to hurt or control you. If this is someone you respect, then you should speak up and say as respectfully as possible, that you are sorry but that is not a good point of view. There is forgiveness, and you should not be so judgmental, that there is good in everyone, you should say and just because you do something that someone thinks is wrong, there should be forgiveness for mistakes, and bad judgment, especially with children. You are learning and you should be given the opportunity to make mistakes, otherwise how would you learn. So do not take everything someone says at face value, you should obey your parents and respect them, but also try to learn what is the right thing to do. We all make mistakes, adults probably make more serious mistakes than children sometimes. So take it in stride but don't take all things seriously. Be able to see both sides, and maintain your point of view until you find out you should change your mind. Stay in touch. Take care. In addition, remember your parents were once your age, so one day you will find yourself as old as they are now, and your whole perspective on things may be very different. Be flexible and keep learning.
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reader, confused... +, writes (12 August 2008):
confused... is verified as being by the original poster of the question i know that but is it right to say to children that " only the strong survives those who dont must be buried underground"
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): adults think its easy because its alot easier than been an adult with the teenage kids! think of it this way, your a teenage boy 13-15.. your parents are 30+ they need money, food in the cupboards to feed you, they have to go to work, cook, clean, everything else, they have to worry about wether you have a coat on your back, shoes on your feet, the food in the cupboards, money for your bus to school, dinner money, they have bills to pay, mortgage or rent to pay, holidays etc... they dont have time to go out with their friends because there too busy lookin after their children and going to work! so yeah you might think its hard havin to put up with growing pains that they also used to have.. and the period pains you may get that your mum used to have.. but parents have to put up with so much more! im a teenager myself who knows what your on about, but ive just left school and already wanna go back as i dont wanna grow up! i know how they feel to wanna go back in time too! x
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Im not that old and ive relised i would be a kid again. Growing up is hard, ive got uni to fund, exams, jobs and planning my next three years that will shape my next life.
Yes being a kids is hard, but the problems will seem petty later on in life and when you look back you may see there not as bad as you may have once saw.
But this applies to me, other have hard lives so i cant speak for all
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reader, thats_not_my_name +, writes (11 August 2008):
 hey! i know what you mean, sometimes i get so frustrated when adults say kids have no problems! i think adults say that because they have things to worry about that we haven;t experienced yet such as taxes and bank statements and other boring things like that lol! and raising a family must be pretty tough too i can imagine. but my mum always says she'd never wnat to be a teenager again! my adivce is just try and enjoy your tennage years while they last, focus on the good points! i'm sure when we grow up, we'll look back on them and think we wasted them by worrying! :) xxxxx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Darling!! Being a kid is easy, its just that you dont realise it until you get older. When you have gone through the truma's and worry's of relationships, work, children, and all the other things that adults have to deal with, you will see that a few growing pains were not a lot to deal with.
Oh! how I wish I could be a carefree child again. Make the most of every day darling XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Being a teenager invariably hurts because you don't yet have the perspective that comes with adulthood and having lived life some. When first relationships end badly you have no experience to compare the pain to and no proof except other people's word that the pain you feel will improve over time. I was one of those angsty teenagers myself, but when I grew up a little I honestly laughed at a lot of the things I was so worried about when I was your age. Just remember that your life isn't over after the next few years, and while what happens is important, the mistakes you and others make won't end the world. Good luck x
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Any adult who thinks being a kid is easy just has a poor memory that's all.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (11 August 2008):
Hi there, You have to trust that all adults have basically
gone through the same things that you are going through. But the fact is that they went through it so lone ago that they probably can't even remember the crying spells, the heartbreak of first love gone wrong, zits, trying to be as popular as the next girl or guy, and a lot of other growing up problems. Or the adults are so busy with their own adult prblems, that they try to minumize your problems, so that you might feel better about what is going on. Never the less, you should take heart, we all made it and you will too. The oains that you are having as you grow, if they are unusually bad, if you are speaking of bone growth and physical pain, you might want to talk to your mom, and see if she wants to take you to the doctor for an evaluation.
But put on a stiff upper lip and know that we all suffered through and we came out alove, you will too. If I might suggestif you have a boys and girls club in your town,
after consulting with your parents, you might find a nice mentor or friend of both, to talk to there about what you have concerns about, sometimes an outside person can relate,
a little better, if they are not as close to you as fa,ily members. Or special sessions with your school counselor could help. Of course, we are always happy to try to answer
any question that you might have. The gray days of youth though will be over much to soon, so I want to encourage you to enjoy these youthful times and try to find the bright side of the situation if you can. see if you might be able to finda good book on growing up and how to make the best of a good situation :o). Let us hear from you, but also try to be a happy as you can be, it could be much worse, you have a good family and they love you and want you to be happy. Look at the children in third world countries who don't have sufficient food, water and shelter. You are blessed, you just need to look at it through other eyes. You will survive,love yourself, and try tobe your very own best friend. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): I'm sorry you are feeling so stressed right now. The reason adults think you have it good is the old "grass is greener on the other side" adage.
Because you don't have to work and juggle a multitude of things, such as finances and household repairs, children etc, they think in comparison to what they juggle, your life is symplistic and therefore easier. They don't see the things you do have to deal with on a daily basis as being as difficult as what they deal with.
To be quite honest, you probably won't understand how relatively simplistic your life is at this point, until you are an adult and look back on your childhood as a relatively simple life.
What we tend to forget as adults is that every new situation, and every developmental stage in our growth, is stressful at the time we experience them. It is only in hindsight that we loose the ability to remember the tough times and only remember the good things.
However, don't forget that the adults have had the experience of being a child, whereas you have not had the experience of being an adult.
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