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*ainduckie
writes:I moved in with my boyfriend past July. recently we celebrated our 4 year anniversary and even went to look at engagement rings. Now, a month later, he told me that he is not sure whether he wants to be in a relationship, period, but that he still loves me. I don't know what to do. We have other roomates and if either of us leaves no one will be able to make rent for this place so we are kind of stuck together. To make matters worse he is still not sure what his feelings mean and I have no idea how to act or respond to this situation. Help!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (19 March 2007):
 First of all stop worrying about the rent issue. There is always a way round these types of issues and it's the wrong thing to be focusing on right now. Sounds like his head is just faffed up by the idea of having to make a serious life long commitment. This might be a temporary thing or something more permanent but I'm sure that you both continuing to live together isn't helping matters at all since you can't get space from each other to think if you're constantly together. Tell him you're giving him some time and then go stay with your parents or a close friend or something. Things will come a lot clearer when you're apart for a while.
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reader, ANOYMOUS1 +, writes (19 March 2007):
sounds like he has just cold feet. he still loves you he probably just isn't ready for that step. he will be it jusut might take a little longer. tell him that your not ready for the next step and he may change his tune. i think he is just scared. just give him time and in the meantime you stay strong and don't look as if your are completely vulnerable which i know is hard good luck let me know how it turns out. hopefully this will help.
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