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writes:Ok so I've been told by a lot of my friends that I should go ahead and tell this girl that I like her. Now this girl and I have been friends for 3 years, we're really close. But she's 24 (I'm 19). So I've been "crushing major" as quoted from Clueless..... anyways I'm very afraid to come out and tell her how I feel. I know that she might have very faint feelings for me.We went to a free concert the other day. She invited me and it was just us two the entire day in the park, lying on a blanket and what not, but I never attempted a move cause I'd have to ride back with her in the car (we were in San Fran, and I live about 60 min. away).I want to tell her but I can never do anything serious without sarcasm. I can't handle serious situations. So how would be the best way? (other than growing a pair).I'm afraid to lose her as a friend and afraid that she might reject me just because of our age. Reply to this Question
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (15 June 2006):
 go for it make that first move and tell her
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): Go for it! I have been on the giving and recieving ends of four situations like this. Each one very different (me attracted, him not, him attracted me not, both attracted, both just confused!) and they have all worked out for the best. Friends do not let things like this get in the way of a friendship so worst case scenario - you stay friends with her and things may be awkward for a short amount of time, she will understand and not be harsh I can promise you that - if she is then she's not worth your time on any level. Best case scenario - many happy times together and possibly love! Go for it!!
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Hey there,
Isn't Clueless a great movie!? "I totally paused!" hehehe
Sorry. Okay. I was friends with my man for 5 years before I worked up the courage to write him a letter pouring out my heart & soul to him and I was totally freaked that he would reject me (which he did actually the first time!). I learnt the art of 'quiet persistance' but hopefully you won't have to do that; she'll just say "Yes, i've been waiting for you to tell me how you feel for years now!".
Life is too short to sit around wondering what to do. Don't live your life with what-ifs and grasp every opportunity.
Sounds like you have *nearly* worked up the courage to go for it but you are just afraid of ruining the friendship. Trust me on this, life and love are worth the risk! Would you rather remain friends with her for the rest of your life sitting in the shadows of your heart, watching her meet and fall in love with someone else, cussing at yourself for never having said anything?!
Since you are a bit of a kidder and joke around (which is awesome, NEVER try to change yourself!!!!) then use that to your advantage! Tell her in your own jokingly way how you feel and let her know you are dead serious and then if she says she doesn't think of you as anything other than a friend, then you can resume your sarcastic ways and brush it off - at least you tried.
My man is 31 and I am 23 (I was 18 and he was 26 when we got together) and I was very worried about the age thing too and that he would look at me as too much of a little girl. But that didn't even factor into his decision to 'accept my offer' because we got on so incredibly well that he looked at me as a person of equal age. So if you two get on really well then I don't see why your age should be a problem!
Go for it dude! xxx
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