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writes: Hi guys,I've been sleeping with my boyfriend for a few weeks now. I feel he doesnt last long enough though. He always seems to finish before me. It's getting quite frustrating as by the time he's done, I'm just starting to get somewhere. I think he's realised this and feels as though he isn't pleasuring me enough, though he does a great job in foreplay and up untill when he's done in sex as well. Another thing is he's constantly asking me to go down on him. Which is fine, but so far ive stopped when i know he's getting to the brink as i'm quite worried about him cuming in my mouth. The idea doesnt really repulse me, but im just worried he's gonna do it and im gonna throw up or hurt his feelings. my mind isnt set yet on spitting or swallowing. I feel as though he can be quite selfish. I go down on him for a long period of time. However he only goes down on me for a very short time. I would be fine if he told me he didnt enjoy it but he has told me he likes doing it without me asking him about it. Any thoughts guys?
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reader, raven1604 +, writes (5 August 2006):
i have to say well done for talking about things like this.
now as far as him not lasting long enough if he goes fast or harder it can stimulate the man more than the woman try to slow him down and go softer. if forplay is a bit uneven give him a little encoragment try new things role play if thats something you have wanted to try but there is something you need to do and thats talk if you are worried about him cumming in your mouth you should not feel presured in to it or worried he will talk to him. if he dont spend time pleasing you then you dont please him give and rsieve tease a bit but talk ask him why he shouldnt lie to you sex is the most enjoyable thing on the planet for people to do and both parties should be forfilled so just talk and experiment and never feel worried about anything if you do dont do it he should understand if he cares he wont presure you in to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): there is the possiblitity that he can not help it. it has a lot to do with stamina and getting a feel for the person. tell him to try kegel excercises to strengthen his stamina so he will last longer. and honestly oral and actual intercourse are two completely different feelings. all i am saying is that he might not be completely selfish, it might honestly be something that he is going to have to work on to get to the point where he can please you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2006): well first, i think it's really selfish that he gets off to sex and just leaves you hanging. a lot of guys get off before girls do during sex, which sucks, but it's just the way it is...but they can do other things to finish you afterwards. i personally hate it when a guy gets off, and then that's it. because it shows what's most important to him...himself. anyway, he seems selfish to me. i'd say something to him if i were you. because sex isn't just about him. it's about you, as well. and he needs to stop being a jackass.
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