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writes:Hey! :) , my dad has abused me for the past 5-6 years, and that has made me scared of guys cuz there strong, well my boyfriend was over here 2 days ago, and we were sitting on the floor facing eachother and he put both of his hands like slightly up like towards me, and i got scared and like jumped "turns out he was just trying to tickle me!, but i didnt know that, just sorta my reaction" and then he put his hands down and started backing away looking really sad and scared, and he said that i had the most terrified look on my face and i was shaking, it made him really sad! and now i have to figure out how to let him know that i know he wont ever hurt me. ... any advice??? thanks! :) Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Hi :)
wow. It's a terrible thing that's happened to you. I hope that you have gotten some help to help you deal with your abusive past. You're young, and this has evidently affected you. If you haven't already, get help. It should, over time, help you deal with what happened and re-build your trust/self confidence.
Secondly, explain to your boyfriend why you were jumpy with him. If he doesn't know why, he's going to blame himself. You need to talk with him and explain that you know he'd personally never hurt you but you find it hard to trust men in general because of your past. Maybe together you can build your trust up slowly. If he loves you, he should support you in fighting your demons.
I really hope this helped
xxx
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