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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok, this really is a beauty and the beast type scenario. I'm not like most girls, I'm 6 foot 1 and by no means skinny. My whole life I've been told that I'm weird, different, or just not good enough, especially by men. Well, I finally met someone who fits the type of person I never thought would go for me. We have had many obstacles within our relationship from external sources, but we have managed to make it through. I love him with all my heart but he never shows me afftection, nor is he open with me about anything. We do everything together, and I don't know if he is just this way with me because I'm not that good looking, or if its truly the way he is. We constantly have huge fights over little insignificant things that hurt my feelings. We are both tired and need this to change. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): So you both are always together but he isn't affectionate, he doesn't share his feelings with you and he picks fights with you and you think that this has something to do with your appearance? Look anything is possible but there are beautiful women right this very minute whose boyfriends look and act like nasty beasts and these beauties also get treated this exact same way. I personally do not think any of this has to do with your looks. If the guy decided to date you it is probably because he likes you. And if you both are going through a hard time right now, it is probably a natural progression of the relationship totally unrelated to your looks. You need to be more confident...work on that.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (3 July 2010):
 There are many short women in the world who would give a lot to have your height! You have to appreciate that all girls have insecurity about their appearance. Men who degrade you have issues of their own...I guess a few of those insults came from the vertically-challenged idiots who are intimidated by your amazon physique! The fact that you have a boyfriend shows that some people find your looks attractive. Moreover relationships are based on friendship as much as the physical side of things. I don't think your boyfriend is responding without affection because of your looks - it may just be his way or you pair may be spending too much time together. It can be easy to take each other for granted if you have regular contact. Talk to him about how you feel and then take charge of the situation by creating special occasions and date-nights to keep the romance alive rather than sitting at home watching DVD's together.
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