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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Basicly, I like this guy but so does my bestfriend.She gets extremely jealous whenever he talks or looks at me and espeacaly if he writes on my fb wall. She always tries to make me jealous my telling me in depth what hes said to her and how he looks at her but whenever I see them together I see no such thing? I am getting really worried for her as he has a massive reputaion for being a complete user and I am scared hes how trying it on with me. We use to talk all the time like real people but now he acts really fake and macho around me which I really dont like although its quite funny watching him flirt really badly. He also doesn't like it when I talk to other boys espeacaly much older ones and even had a go at me when I was checking a guy out on the street. Although my friend said that shes fine with it I know she would be really upset if anything did happen, which I really doubt my the way he plays girls and then just leaves them on the side lines. I'm worried about her as she gets really possisive over him and spents most of her time putting make-up on to impress him. I hate how much control he has over her and I dont want him to do the same with me. I have tried to get over him but I simply can't. Sometimes he just acts like two diffrent people, depending on who he is with, one mintute with his friends in school hes a complete user and prick but with his friends out of school hes the boy I know. His friends in school hate me, some of which use to bully me lower down in the school and sometimes make mean comments to me still. Also I'm getting a reputation for being the friend that the guy you like will fancy, which is horrible as with each one of my close friends this is happened a few times which I completely hate. I even had a facebook group about it which got 107 fans in a week..which is basicly all the girls in my year.....after one of my 'friends' found out that the boy she liked said he fancied me. I am really worried about what this is doing to my best friend, and also I wonder if he is only being like this with me to see how far he can get before he disguards me like the so many other girls or weather he really does like me but is too scared to show it beacause of his completely dickhead friends. I just have no idea what to do?? I really like him but I don't want him to treat me badly but at the same time I dont want to hurt my friend help me?? sorry this was so long:Ss x
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 You admit it yourself: this guy uses girls. If you got with him, how sure are you that he wouldn't do the same? You're NOT his gf, he has no reason to be jealous about who you talk to-that's your private bussiness anyway. Even if he does act nicer around you, something tells me that he's not mature enough yet to be himself and not worry what people think. As for your friend, no matter what you say/do, she's going to go after him and get hurt. If you try and warn her away, she'll think it's a trick you set up to get the guy. So, give this guy distance. Date someone else, he's not ready for anything meaningful. I'm afraid you'll get badly hurt..whatever you decide, think it through and most of all, go slow. Hope this helps...
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