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writes:i just got a new boyfriend! i am sooo happy, but im also having a baby that is not his. he knows about the baby and is fine with it, but i feel i am not being fair to him.. i just got out of a bad relationship with the baby daddy, who wants a part in the babys life, but not mine... my new bf wants to be the babys dad and my boyfriend... i feel like im forcing him into this whole thing and its not fair for him to have to worry about a baby.... am i being unfair?? Reply to this Question
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (2 February 2009):
im_a_dummy is verified as being by the original poster of the question well, i can support him, i have all of that figured out already, thanks for your concern... what i dont know is how i am going to deal with chase and daniel... the baby daddy and my bf. they both want to be in the delivery room with me, chase because its his kid, daniel because he wants to support me and be there for the baby. i can only have ONE of them in the room with me. and i dont think im being fair to daniel for pulling him into this relationship, let alone making him come back with me. but if i dont let him come back with me, then he might think i dont like him, and im just dragging him into the relationship. i am not a baby... i am having a baby, i will be a mother not a baby, and im not being defensive!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Do not be defensive. I know you are physically able to have kids, duh, that's a given. It's not really a problem physically so much as financially and all that other junk.
You don't have to be defensive. Be one of the few and rare teen moms that aren't like that. :-) It would help you and help people realize YOU ARE mature.
By the way, congratulations?
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (10 January 2009):
im_a_dummy is verified as being by the original poster of the question"Babies having babies... good God."im not a baby... i might not be mentally ready, but my body is ready, if i was still a baby i wouldnt have been able to get pregnant. Yea i am young, but not to young, my body is ready and i can be ready too... and it does matter if i want him in the life or not.... if i dont want him there he wont be there, i was asking if i was being unfair, i want to be as fair as i can be, not if it was the right thing, if it was fair.....
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reader, headphonejunkie +, writes (27 December 2008):
Don't be an idiot. It doesn't matter if you want him in your the babies life or not, you have to find a legal reason to keep him out (drugs, gangs, violence)... also, whatever you do, seek child support. It isn't for you, it is for the child.
Babies having babies... good God.
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (26 December 2008):
im_a_dummy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys..... and no we kids havent gone mad, we learned what feels good in bed! haha, anyway thanks guys.... the thing is, i dont want the baby daddy in the bbyz life, he is a BAD roll model and i want wats best for my baby... i am putting 9 months into it and he put in like an hour.... tops
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 BABY at the age of 13 to 15 ....?
That's Ridiculous... Have you Kids gone Nuts or what...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): The truth is you are going to need help and suppoprt when the baby arrives, so if he says he'll be there and you like him too What's the problem? Just get on your knees and praise God.
If you are going to be a single mother then he can be in your baby's life also but not as a daddy because your baby will have the support and love of his real father. But you have the right to have a partner also and if he doesn't mind the stress of the baby in your relationship I believe you should give him the chance.
A baby is a lot of work and stress and you are sooo young and I guess your boyfriend should also be about your age, so I don't know if you can trust him to be all the way there with you throughout the pregnancy and watching you become a mother and giving up other attractive women and partying. It depends on how much he truly loves you and how mature he is.
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reader, Ms.wayne +, writes (25 December 2008):
No I don't think you are being unfair. Your new bf knows your situation and he had 2 options either stay or go. He obviously chose to stay with you. He sounds like a good guy to want to do this.He made the decision to continue on with this relationship and basically undearstands that things happen, people break up and unfortunately babies come out of it.
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