B/f has issues being verbally affectionate

A female age 36-40, *tar1984 writes:

Okay, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for five months now, he's amazing and everything has been doing well until now. In the beginning he was verbose, funny, and charismatic and had no issues giving me compliments. I’ll be honest; I’m a bit needy and love confirmation. Now, he travels a lot for work so communications plays a big role in our relationship. But lately, I’ve noticed that he's been very detached, less affectionate and boring. When we're together, i find myself being the one who initiates conversation. He doesn’t even compliment me anymore. I can’t stress how dry and detached he's been. He's an Aquarius and ive read that they aren’t easy to deal with. My boyfriend has never been in a relationship and he's 26, so he's foreign to the word compromise. I've told him that i needed him to be verbose, but he keeps telling me that it’s not in his nature, that he doesn’t do that stuff and that I’ll have to accept him for who he is. But i can’t help but wonder if he's being selfish, or I’m just being too needy. I mean, doesn’t every female want a good conversation and compliments. I hate that his changing and would like to know if there’s a way I can help him feel comfortable to open? Or should I just move on?

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