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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:HiI need some advice about dating. I’m in my late 20’s and I want to start dating guys. My problem is I’m worried guys will judge me as I’ve never been in a committed relationship and I’m a virgin.In the past, I had a bad experience with a guy. He turned out to be a nasty piece of work. I fell for the wrong guy and I got hurt. It took me a long time to move on. This is why I am single.My bad experience put me off getting close to guys and I didn’t want to get hurt. I’m ready to meet someone new but I’m worried guys will judge me when they find out I’m a virgin and the fact that I’ve never been in a relationship. I’ve dated guys in the past. If I do meet someone genuine, when do I tell them I’m less experienced? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): The bias against inexperience is something that women hold against men, not vice versa. Most guys would think its lot better for a 20s woman to have less experience than average rather than more.
A full blown virgin can put some guys off but only because they worry about the responsibility of a sexual encounter meaning too much to you compared to what it means to them. It's pretty rare for them to literally find your virginity itself unattractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): It's an awkward thing to slide into a sentence ;). Seriously, if they like you enough, then I would have thought (at least personally) that it really wouldn't matter. The subject would (I imagine) crop up before act itself. There's a first time for everything and no-one expects anyone to be the world's greatest lover the first time.
Give yourself a break, and try to not focus on it. It's really not a big deal.
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