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writes:What are some reliable forms of temporary sterilization for women? I'm on birth control, but I want something that's 100% without having to clip myself. I've never heard of one, but maybe others have? Are there anything out there? I'm currently not having sex with my boyfriend, but we've been together for almost a year, so it might start happening soon, especially since I'm about to turn 18. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers. I pretty well figured there wasn't a sure fire way that didn't involve permanent damage. It's my boyfriend who is so concerned about pregnancy. Really, I feel like with the way I take my pill and a condom, even some VCF if it makes him feel better, we'd be fine. I just don't want something so beautiful ruined by him turning into a worry ball, and I don't want it to hurt our relationship either.
The simple answer is not to have sex. Which is what we've been doing this past year. It's just getting really hard though. I come from an openly loving and physical family. I was taught that sex is an expression of love. That's really, really hard to not have with someone I'm so close to. It's probably just going to continue to be abstinence though, no matter what I do.
@ sexlessintheuk: you're a bit right. He's very afraid of pregnancy, so I'm trying to find a way to ease his mind.
@ doublejack and others who mentioned the pill, I do in truth take my pill correctly. I've only ever missed it twice, during finals week when I passed out on my books, and I wouldn't have done anything until the pill was again effective, so I'm doing that alright.
@ Odds: lol. That reminds me of a very pregnant woman's t-shirt that read "No Vacancy"
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reader, Odds +, writes (14 July 2011):
 The other posters have covered contraceptives as well as is needed. There is another element, though: trust.
If you switch from using condoms and the pill to using just IUD's without condoms, there is still the risk of STD's if one of you cheats. Even with condoms, cheating could still lead to STD's, but the switch to unprotected sex would still be an increase in risk. He will also have to trust that you'll stick to the replacement schedule for any implant or IUD that you use. Then there's the backup plan if even the 99.99% contraceptives fail - how would you handle an against-the-odds pregnancy together? Basically, be sure you both really, really trust each other.
Side note: I saw a shirt a while back that I got a laugh out of. It had a picture of the Virgin Mary on it, with the subtitle: "Abstinence: 99.999% effective."
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (13 July 2011):
 There's nothing except abstinence that is 100% effective. It would be nice, wouldn't it? Anyway, here is a chart that should help you see what the options are and how they stack up in terms of preventing unwanted pregnancy:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control/birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
You should discuss your options with your gynecologist and base your choice(s) on what is best for your individual needs, health and family history.
I think it's reasonable to use two types of birth control, one hormonal and one barrier method to increase your protection, and your comfort level.
The planned parenthood website has another tool that might be helpful to you as well: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/all-access/my-method-26542.htm You plug in what your particular needs are and it walks you through a bunch of questions to determine what might work best for you.
Good luck to you!
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reader, doublejack +, writes (13 July 2011):
Condoms break, and women forget to take their daily pill sometimes, hence there is still a risk of pregnancy using those methods. However, there are two options that nobody has mentioned yet.1. An intrauterine device, aka an IUD. The IUD is inserted into the uterus by a doctor and has a high success rate for preventing pregnancies. It is rated to be nearly as effective as sterilization (aka having one's tubes tied). The benefits of an IUD are that there's nothing to remember, there's no monthly cost (for most women birth control pills are not covered), it has no impact on a woman's natural hormone levels, there's nothing to break, it can remain inside from 5 to 12 years (depends on the specific device), and once removed the woman returns to full, normal fertility.The biggest downsides of having an IUD inserted is that it is not a painless process, and it doesn't do anything to prevent STD transmission (while a condom does). In a committed relationship the concern of STD's should be a non-issue though.My ex-wife, once she decided she didn't want any more children, opted to have an IUD inserted. I can vouch for both the effectiveness and convenience of it. If you want to "be safe" and know you don't want to start a family soon, it is a very good option.2. Contraceptive implants - they work using the exact same principle as "the pill", but they release hormones automatically. So you don't have to remember taking a pill every day.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (13 July 2011):
 If you are using the pill properly (taking it every day) and using condoms, there is no reason why you should get pregnant. The reason why people do get pregnant is because they think not taking the pill once will not make any difference, or they forget that using antibiotics has an effect on the pill, or the condom breaks or etc..
The only thing that is 100% as Flynn says is abstinence. Even women who have been sterilized have reports of miracle pregnancies.
Use the pill and condoms PROPERLY, and you will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): Nothing accept Abstinence is 100 percent guaranteed to prevent pregnancy.
Sorry, all these things that work to halt ovulation or trap the sperm are man made and fail a small percentage of the time. As with all things man made.
Flynn 24
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