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writes:ok. so last night i got my first kiss. he walked me to the door went on and on about how he liked me and how i was such a nice girl. he hugged me then he kissed me. but i wasnt expecting the kiss so he only got half of my mouth. it was so awkward and i didnt like it. are awkward first kisses normal? he still hasnt texted me so i dont know what hes thinking right now.
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reader, daletom +, writes (25 October 2010):
Yeah, first kisses are usually awkward.
I'll guess this was your FIRST, first kiss. Do you think it was also his very first? And was this a first date? Put all of those factors together, and it's not exactly three times the awkwardness - it's more like awkwardness cubed!
(What do you mean by, "it was so awkward and i didnt like it."? That you didn't like being kissed at all; or that you wanted it to be a "proper" first date where he'd try to kiss you but you wouldn't let him; or that the kiss didn't turn out like you expected; or that you didn't get to reciprocate like you want to; or that his kissing skills are just plain lousy?)
What's he thinking? Well, he probably sensed that the kiss didn't go well but he doesn't really know why. He might be confused because he didn't see skyrockets and feel earthquakes when he kissed you - since that's how Hollywood says it's supposed to be. Or, he might be feeling embarrassed and disappointed over his own performance and he's convinced that he blew his one and only chance to impress you with his romantic skills. Or, he might feel guilty for forcing something on you that you really didn't want, and he's afraid you have totally written him off as a sex-crazed pervert.
It's OK to text him. Try one of the following - whatever seems most appropriate to you:
"You should NOT have touched me like that! The next time I see you, I'll call my brother to beat the daylights out of you until my father arrives!"
"You're an affectionate guy, but I'm going to need some time to get used to that."
"It was fun being with you last night. I hope we get to see more of each other, soon."
"You're full of surprises! You really caught me off-guard!"
"Hey, when can we get together and try it again?"
"I think we could learn a lot from each other. When?"
"Wow, there's so much I need to teach you about pleasing a girl. I'll expect you here at 7:30 tonight!"
p.s. - Take a look at the thread "I want a first kiss without being controlling!" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-a-first-kiss-without-being-controlling.html , and "Our first date tomorrow, should I kiss her or not?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/our-first-date-tomorrow-should-i-kiss-her.html .
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): damn that guy needed to sense ur mood better. Im sorry. Yes, they can be awkward. Not like when ur on an elevator and u walk out and its not ur floor so u walk back in in front of people awkward (yes, ive done that) ... but it can be weird as it is intended to be exploration and the only way to get better is to keep doing it. Im not saying I need to stop taking elevators :p ... but rather he should have been able to sense if it was the right time esp since he initiated. Text this fella a little hello and ask him how his day was. Two normal things. If he responds weird Id talk to him and see what his deal is. Good luck.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 More than you know! First kisses are rarely ever perfect. If you haven't tried texting him, text him first-just a casual message with a little smile. If he doesn't text back, his loss.
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