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reader, NuttyGooner  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 The trick that always works when I am stuck in a conversation?
Repeat the last 3-5 words the person has just said, but raise the pitch at the end, like you are asking a question.
Don't do it throughout the entire conversation - you'll sound a little creepy - but it will keep it going until you find something interesting to say.
Trust me - it works, and when done right, people believe that you are interested in what they say (or they will mention something that you are comfortable talking about, allowing you to lead the conversation).
I do that with my bloke when he is talking about the latest problem with his PC...
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reader, TonyL +, writes (3 February 2007):
conversation on the phone can be realy hard as you dont see the reactions on the other persons face.
keep the conversation light and start with how they are and tell them what you have been upto.
the conversation will soon start to flow.
but remeber the art of good conversation is to listen.
I know that sounds crazy but usualy we are planning what to say next and only ever hear half of what the other person is saying.
remeber to take an interest in what they are saying and ask quistions to show you understand where the conversation is going.
and relax, when we are not relaxed it shows in our voice and can put the other person off.
try calling your best friend for no reason and see how long you can chat for and work from there.
good luck and remeber the phone is your friend and even keeps familys together.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (3 February 2007):
 I assume we're talking about you chatting to someone you feel a bit awkward around? If I'm worried about this I think of some things to talk about if there are awkward silences, stuff like... that new french teacher is a cow hm? or have you seen that film thats on at the cinema at the moment? it looks really good.
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (3 February 2007):
 it depends on Why you're on the phone and Who with? Making conversations is basically Being interested in the other person. you have to learn how to be a good listener, you have to participate in the conversation... By all means, DON"T stay on the phone if you feel like the person just wants to talk about him/herself. Conversations are a 2 way thing, after all.
You can find some websites on the net that teach you how to be a good conversationalist. Throughout your life, you have to keep yourself open to things, events, news, or even something that you find funny. Your observations can make for a wealth of topics and information that you can throw in as an icebreaker or as a topic of conversation.
But don't just throw it in there, if you GENUINELY find your observations interesting and want to share it with somebody then THEY can feel the positive vibe off of you and be just as excited. Your tone is just as important, if not MORE than what you have to say sometimes. Just remember not to overdo it ;)
There are a lot of ways you can make your conversation enriching and rewarding and fun. Sometimes it's just as easy to maintain a conversation if you're NOT THINKING ABOUT IT. If you keep thinking "ohmigod ohmigod ohmigod I don't have anything else to say" then the other person on the line can FEEL the awkwardness and might want to cut the conversation short.
I hope that helped a little :) Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): lol. isn;t it just like something you can do or not do. i can talk for hours and hours but my boyfriend just gets all rigid and goes quiet and then has to say goodbye. our longest covo was 12 mins and it wass hilarious i had to congratulate him.
help!? umm.. i guess not being afraid of silences is good. relaxed conversation, whats the reason you can;t keep a convo going. talked about silly things like they're sitting right next to you. fill-ins are always good.
-what you up to?
-whats the weather like? (stupid but works)
- complain about something irrelavent like you hair getting messed or something lol
i don;t know but i got my boyfriend to extend his covo's from 2 mins to 12 lol
keep talking to them but notice when your annoying them and then shut up lol. xXx
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