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writes:Hello,Regarding the girl I started talking to on facebook, started flirting with, came up with an instrumental piece of music for (who thought it was really sweet when I told her and she liked the piece as well) and am meeting Fresher's week in two weeks time.We had agreed to meet before uni some time for lunch or something. She told me though she had a couple of job offers so might not to be able to but would "keep me informed". I suppose that's good that she said that? (don't read too much into the specific wording as she is not a native english speaker)Also, I am now starting to get a bit nervous about how I am going to approach meeting her during freshers' week if we don't meet prior. It will be a busy week and there are lots of social events but I'd prefer if it was more personal than that. Obviously I wouldn't want to suggest anything uncomfortable for her. Any advice? Should I suggest we have lunch together (might be difficult due to all the stuff that's happening) or what? Ideally I'd like to meet her on the first day - but I don't think that is essential. Maybe ask if she's free one evening for a drink or something? As always any advice is appreciated :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks. forgot to mention that when I say I might not have time I really meant it literally with the number of compulsory talks and speeches and so on. We had previously agreed to meet freshers' week. And also most of the social events will probably involve copious drinking - not my thing.Also, when she said keep me informed that was only referring to any possible meeting before Freshers' week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): If she told you that she would 'keep you informed' as to the proposed 'meeting' date, then maybe that is where you might want to do--wait until she tells you. If you have never met her before, then no, don't pressure her. You could reply to her, with a note and tell her that you will await an answer from her, as to when and where, she wants to meet you and you accept her answer. And when that happens, regardless of Fresher's Week, you make the time to meet with her. If she replies with a decisive answwer, great! If she doesn't reply, go and have a blast at Fresher's Week and enjoy all the social events. Good luck and have fun!
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 An interesting situation, one which vaguely resembles a situation I am in too. I have noticed you have posted other questions similar to this one but you have remained anonymous on all of them so I can't go back and recollect any other information you may have let on before.
The first thing I would like to ask you is whether you have ever met her before or will this be your first meeting? I will presume you haven't met her yet in my answer.
If you are going to university together you have all the time in the world to get to know her better in private. There is nothing wrong with meeting her along with a thousand other freshers for now. If you are studying the same subject or in the same halls you could offer your services as a friend to go in with which would give you a good excuse to keep close to her or to help her move her stuff into her room, whatever!
No harm in asking her out for a drink either I guess. It's difficult to gauge because I don't really know too much about how well you know her but try and make sure you don't come on too strong - unless you are positive she feels the same way. I'd say writing her a piece of music could very well be considered strong (especially if you've never met the girl). Hold something back for later!
I am also going to university in a few weeks time too by the way and would be interested in seeing how this pans out for you. If you'd like to delve further into your situation then I'd be happy to think it over, either here or through mail.
Whatever you decide to do, best of luck. I can see you care for this girl a lot. Lets hope she returns your affections.
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