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writes:Has anyone ever put a baby up for adoption or is there anyone on here that is adopted?A family friend of my bf's asked us if we would be interested in having an open adoption. That way we could still be part of the baby's life. I'm just not sure if emotionally that's a good idea. I was just looking for some insight on adoption Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2014): I don't think that open adoption is any less painful than a closed adoption for the birth parent. I suggest you search thoroughly for your answers on adoption forums/websites based in your country. Adoption laws differ so much from country to country that it will be difficult for many aunties to give you sound advice. Check any facts you're told on this site carefully.I know that in the UK (where open adoption is very rare and usually only reserved for older children who have already bonded with their birth parent) that the level of contact with the birth parents is very low. Usually only a few hours 4 times a year (max). The child may also be allowed to send and receive letters, telephone calls and photographs but even these may be limited to birthdays and christmas etc. And if the child concerned is a baby, he/she won't be able to participate in this.And the birth parent wouldn't be involved in any decision making for the child. If the birth mother didn't like anything about the way the adoptive parents raised the child there would be very little she could do.But that's the UK - things could be very different in Canada.What do you want to do? Deep down - regardless of anyone's feelings?
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reader, Brokenv +, writes (4 September 2014):
Wow! I feel for you. You are in a tough position. You are the only one that can wake up in the morning and say I'm happy with my decision.
I wish you good luck Sweetie. God Bless you for giving up your baby to a family who is willing to consider you as part of the family.
I hope you hear from someone who has done that or was a child of this.
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